A New Year, and Friends Rule!
Happy New Year from Discovery Girls! In our “You Say” poll, it’s clear that some of you have vowed to be a better friend in 2008! For inspiration, check out what our Kentucky Discovery Girls had to say about their best friendships…
Rebecca and Ashley
“Ashley is very outgoing and always positive about everything. She says she loves my personality, my ideas for playing different things, and that I'm very friendly. We do everything together, from spending the weekend with each other to going camping together. I love that we are able to tell each other everything. I know I can trust her with all my secrets. We may get mad at each other sometimes but by the end of day we always make up!”
Hope and Abby
“I know that I can go to Abby with any of my problems and she’ll help me with them. Since my BFF is my age, goes to my school, and is in my grade, she’s gone through some of the same problems I am going through. To have a friend you have to be a friend. You have to treat your friends the way you would want to be treated.”
Emma and Olivia
“Olivia can make me laugh simply by looking at me at any random moment! Her best quality is that she is always herself—she never acts fake or cares what people think. That’s very important to me! There are a lot of things that make our friendship special. We both love fashion, acting silly, swimming, laughing, and eating (LOL). Our moms are also best friends so we get to hang out a lot!”
Brooke and Kristen
“Kristen and I never get in fights—she’s very friendly and the best friend anyone could have! Kristen and I love to take pictures and just sit around and talk. It’s the little moments we spend together that are the best!”
How do you keep your friendships strong, and what tips do you have for being a better friend this year? Let us know in comments to this post! For more friendship help, check out DG’s new book, Fab Girls Guide to Friendship Hardship!


















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My friends are forever.
My friend Samantha is a true advice giver. When you need her she is there for you!! I thought that Brooke and Kristen are a good example for all s because they love hanging out together!! Hayley
HELP!
DG girls i have a friend problem, and i need help. my friend just moved away, and at first she emailed all the time, but now she never emails! im worred because it was befor new years she emailed. i know shes trying to make new friends… but i feel as if shes forgotten me. im glad shes made new friends but she was my only friend, so you can think of how sad i am. can you help me?
Re: HELP!
Well, how far away did she move? Maybe you two can get together one weekend. Last year, my friends weren’t in my classes, so every now and then we would get together and hang out. If you can do that with your friend, then you can probably save this friendship. If you can’t do that, then send her an e-mail and tell her how you feel. You can still save this friendship.
Good luck!
-nel-
I know how hard it is when a
I know how hard it is when a friend moves away. Have u tried calling her? Mabye she has been busy latly, but its been awile since new years. If u think about it, it could be a good thing shees not e-mailing u. That means shes making friends, and u want whats best for her, right? I know how easy it is to get out of touch with someone far away, so keep trying!
RE: Help
why don’t you call her or send her a letter. My friend moved away once and we called each otehr every week to stay in touch. Hope this works!
Reply 2 HELP!!!
First of all, New Year’s was only 6 days ago so maybe she is on vacation and doesn’t have acess to a computer, she may even be grounded and not be able to use the computer! If not, you can either a: tell her how you feel, but don’t be pushy. ask her if she has made any new friends, maybe you just have to start a conversation… b: call her up! she can’t really deny your call but leave a message just in case. make sure not to call her constantly….
I am so sorry!
Oh my gosh, I totally know how it feels to have to make new friends. It can be really hard. Think of how you and your BFF first bonded. Were you laughing over the same joke? Were you in similar activities or classes? Look for people who have similar interusts as you. You’ll find a way through. This time, try to make a circle of friends. This way, if one friendship doesn’t work out, you’ll have other friends to fall back on. Keep e-mailing your BFF, though- she could just be really busy with homework or something, and we all know that true friends are special people! -Cuba
Reply to "HELP!"
Try emailing your friend yourself.She might e-mail back!If she doesn’t,try calling her.It might work.
your not the only one
i love the discoverygirls club but no one pays us anymine because we are not americans i am from jamaica and i always wanted to see me in that magazine.
I'm the person hu wrote HELP!
Thanks, for you guys help. my friend moved all the way across the country, so i’ts a little harder then that. email and phone are the only way we can talk, and as i said she hasn’t emailed, and when i tried to call she didn’t answer her cell or home.today started school so i know shes got to be there! the thing is, i know my friend and she loves the computer! ever second she gets shes on it! i can’t help but feel she sees my emails and pushs them uside. thanks for all your help, but as you can see i still need help. so if any one has any thing that might help please tell me!
Well, if shes avoiding u,
Well, if shes avoiding u, then y dont u just let go of her. She obviosly has no manners, am i right?
-PandaGirl
reply to "HELP!"
I have your same problem. Try to be very nice to her and send her e-mails for her birthday, Christmas, and New Year’s. Always send her e-mails to remaind her that you are there for her and she can chat with you anytime. What I did is I added her on IM and now we talk all the time! Hope this helps! CeCe
it stinks when friends move
my friend since kindergarten just moved to purto rico. i miss her soooooooo much. we don’t really talk anymore which is really sad because we were such great friends. don’t worry you aren’t alone. luv chey
e-mail problem
friends might not e-mail you just becaus…well let’s be realistic here. they’re lazy to do it. it’s true. they still miss you, but are lazy cto e-mail. try calling your friend:) Polly
I can help you!
I know excatly what you are going through! My best friend moved away 2 years ago and the same thing happened to me. At first I got very sad that I wasn’t getting e-mails from her, but then I realized that she is just trying to make new friends. If she was your only friend, then maybe you could play a sport, join a camp, or just start sitting with a new group of people at lunch! It worked for me and I hope it works for you , too! Even though it seems like she has forgotten about you, she really hasn’t. Instead of relying on her e-mailing you, try calling her once in a while. Try to find friends that have the same interests that you do! I hope this helps!
If your friend moved away
If your friend moved away ask your mom for her phone # and give her a call! That way you two can catch up on things you both experienced in the new year! Also about the part where u said she was your only friend, I know it must hurt to have a fiend move away, that happened to me, but it’s never too late to make new ones! Maybe joining in clubs and other stuff will get you to know more people! You never know, another person out there might be lonely and need a friend too….. Anyway I hope it all works out!!!! TTYL!!! Karissa
HELP is HERE!
I don’t blame you for feeling forgotten. Two years ago one of my friends moved away and never emailed back. )-: Or called. Try getting her phone number, or you try emailing her! If she still doesn’t respond, she might have found some new friends. And thats great for her! But that means you need to let go of your old friend and find some new friends!
Re:HELP!
First of all if you only have one friend you should try to make more! DG has some awesome tips! You should talk to your friend and explain how much you miss her (best if you do it by phone email can be complicated)! Be sure to mention you are happy she made new friends but would like to keep in contact a little more! Maybe if my advice didn’t work you could write to Ali in DG!
advice for help
don’t worry about your friend i’m sure your friend will e-mail you soon but in the mean time try to make new friends then you’ll both have something to talk about
A friend that moved
Your friend, I am sure is very busy, so I would just wait a little while. Also it has been the holidays so I think you should give it a rest for a little while. She will probably email you when she becomes a little more comfortable, amd relaxed with her new house. I hope you had a great Christmas, and Happy New Year!
RE:HELP!
dO YOU STILL HAVE HER PHONE NO.? Call her(Sory I had caps lock on before) and ask her to try to email you more often if youremind her or call her often just to talk and update eachother about your lives then all will probably work out fine!
My friends are forever
I’m sure You and Samantha are great friends, I hate to burst your bubble but, sooner or later you and Samantha will grow apart, soooo don’t be surprised when it starts to happen. My friends and I are really close too, but I have some friends who they act like they don’t even know me! But I’m sure it’s not out of anger cuz when we did hang out, we were soooo close we thought we could never be seperated. But some other people came along, and we got seperated by classes in school. I know you’re thinking that’s no reason for forgeting, but we just got occupied with different people , things, styles, sports and some other things totaly split us up. So to all the DG girls out there, you’re not alone….I’m with you sisters.
Hey!!! I have a BFF and we,
Hey!!! I have a BFF and we, like, NEVER get into fights!!!! She always has my back, and I can call her with any problem knowing that she actually listens to me. She is the most amazing friend EVER!!!!
My best and I somtimes fight
My best and I somtimes fight but we normally get allong well. normally our fights are really-nothing!!!!!
lost friend
i used to have the best friend in the world we new each other since we were three!we did over thing together!then we got into the 6th grade.it was ok at first we would always have sleep overs on fridays.but then she started dateing this one guy and started hangingout with the realy popular girls! then when we started talking about how we werent hanging out she got mad ans said that i was just jealous that she moved on and i hadnt soooo we stoped talking that day and we havent since at times i realy miss her and sometimes i dont but now ive moved on and have meet i realy awsome friend but i dont ever think ill ever have a best friend like my old one ever agian
my friends rock
my friends rock
Emma and Olivia
Emma and Olivia sound a lot like me and my friend. We laugh at anything and we have a lot of insiders. She never seems to care about what other people think. When we were younger we got into fights over stupid stuff, but now we’re best friends 4 life, and that’s never gonna change. She’s my bestest friend, and I’m never gonna lose her and she knows it.
-nicole-
Me and my friends
Me and my friends are the greatest bffls ever! There are 4 of us.We tell each other every thing we belive the saying: Best friends because Parents couldn’t handle us as Sisters. we even call each others parents mom and dad.LOL Anna
Bffs
Yeah, my friends never get into fights! Well, yes, sometimes they do, but they are great friends to me! Lauren
My BFF and I are like Twins!
Me and my BFF are like twins we never fight and always get along we sing alike, look alike, and act alike!
Another Emma and Olivia
My best friend Olivia has another friend named Emma and they and they are pretty close. isnt that kinda funny? -sarah
BFFL's
Me and my BFF are like the perfect duo. We never get into fights and straight after school we call eachother to see how our days went. And even though we go to different school s we have a sleepover like every weekend and we always know that we can talk to eachother about anything and not feel embaressed. I hope we stay BFF’s forever (we hopefully will) -Taylor
lucky!
what lucky girls to have such good friends! I have a BFF, too. Her name is melissa and she cracks me up at any given moment.
Friends forever
I have three best friends. We always do things together we have a club, friendship rings, and of course sleepovers! Me and my friends will laugh almost anytime practically! We are always friends no matter what even if we do have fights. Anyone can be your friend. Try to be nice too. Just make sure when you are with your friends you are having fun!
lotsa advice
have u ever noticed how supportive we are on this website? Every comment asking for advice has always been answered. Dang, if only we were all this nice to each other in the real world
friends
My bFfS!
My best friends are SO important to me! We can make each other laugh ‘til our sides ache and our eyes are filled with tears. Just one smile from them can brighten my day, any day. I’m glad that my friends and I are and act like ourselves, no matter who’s around. my friends are great.
kAsSiDy*
TIPS!!! =)
Some good tips 4 being a good friend is following the golden rule. for example, treat ur others how u want 2 b treated! cuz if ur mean, pple have the right to be mean rite back at u! also, encourage, not discourage. i knew a person who thought she was always better than everyone and she would always bring pple down! so no1 wanted 2 b around her. if u encourage everybody then they’ll want 2 b around u. good luck, and i hope 2008 is filled with joy, love, and friends!
TIPS!!! =)
Some good tips 4 being a good friend is following the golden rule. for example, treat ur others how u want 2 b treated! cuz if ur mean, pple have the right to be mean rite back at u! also, encourage, not discourage. i knew a person who thought she was always better than everyone and she would always bring pple down! so no1 wanted 2 b around her. if u encourage everybody then they’ll want 2 b around u. good luck, and i hope 2008 is filled with joy, love, and friends!
Reply to help!
well i also gave you a comment but i read ur second response and hav some new ideas! Try sending her an email saying you miss her and say you a VERY worried about your fiendship chances are she is reading ur emails but isnt replying for some reason you need to be nice but let her know you are concerned if she doesnt reply try sending her a small card and/or a small gift such as stickers or something saying you really miss her and that you want her to call you or email you. Also who were her old friends at your school talk to them and see if they keep in contact! Try to make new friends to ik its super hard!
Ok,I NEED HELP 2! DIFFRENT HELP! PLZ REPLY 2 IT
ok,I need help 2! I realy like tis friend have but she keeps bragging wether it is about her ipod touch or her new shirt! I realy want to be friends,but I dont know how much longer I can take it without exploding! Any ideas? Please help before I d explode! Thanks
Leah
help is here (have u exploded yet? lol)
When she brags, just ignore her. Eventualy, she’ll take a hint that she’s being rude, and that you might explode if she keeps doing it. If she keeps doing it, then just politely tell her to stop bragging. If neither of these work, then a) im the worst advice giver ever or b) go to plan c. So what is plan c? Well, I’m glad you asked, cuz plan c is… (drum role) say ‘sounds great, hey! are you ready for that english test tomorrow?’ There ya go. That’s your advice. Good luck!!!!!!! -nel-
advice
i have advice for you leah. talk to your friend and say that you think it’s nice that she has the cool stuff but it is gettin anoying. I have a friend JUST like that and she didn’t listen, so the friendship is over. oh well, hope my advice works!!!
All Friends Matter
Thoes girls all have wonderful frineds! Friends are very importain in life so appreciate them! They matter a lot so dont ever treat them worse than you would treat your self!
Cool!
I remember each of these girls from the magazines they were in. I think it’s cool to hear about all the different friendships around the world… dg girls… ihope you are all still bff’s with these girls… that would be great. Having long friendships is great.. thats what bff means… duh… best friends forevor! So… keep up the great friendship work!
-Kalley
Friends are good
Friends are good to have
Friendships
I keep friendships strong by being loyal to my friends, and not telling their secrets. You also have to learn to trust them with your thoughts and secrets. Be open-minded to your friends opinions, too. To make new friends, I just say hi to people that I have never hung out with before, and start a conversation with them. Try to find something in common you have with that person and try to talk about that. Eventually ,a friendship will develop!
A ture friend
I am in junior high and i have had a lot of experience with friends. Here is what a true friend means to me: Good friends are precious. They support you, listen to you, and stand by you no matter what happens. A way to find a good friend is to find others who share the same intrests. The best way to have a friend is to be a friend. Being a real friend takes time and effort. Just smile,be yourself, and don’t be shy….just talk and have a good time. Don’t get down or upset if you are having a hard time with your friends. It’s not worth getting upset over because, you won’t remember what happened in 7th grade when your older. Just do your best and be kind. For anyone who needed advice i hope that this note helped you a little. Besides if your friends are being mean, you will always have a family and other friends to talk to.
My Friend and Me forever
i got a friend april. i know i can tell her everything like serects poplems and gossip. we are in the same grade class and age group.we spend are time talking.we never get in fights.