Fab Girls Guides: Sticky Situations!
Posted February 29th, 2008 by Laura
Hey, girls! It’s Laura!
As most of you know, I was an intern at Discovery Girls last summer, and I had the amazing opportunity of helping to create the Fab Girls Guides! The books are all ready for you to read now, and I’m so excited that you’ll finally get to see what we were working on all summer.
I loved working on all of the books, but the Fab Girls Guide to Sticky Situations was definitely my fav to brainstorm for. I can still remember Lyn and I sitting in Catherine’s office last June, wracking our brains to come up with every kind of sticky situation we’d ever been in. That’s right: So many of the situations in the book came straight from our middle school days! Most of the “stickies” happened to one of us—or to both of us!
What do you do when your crush doesn’t like you back? Or how about the time my best friend put my hair in crazy pigtails (they looked hideous!) for the eighth-grade dance? Or the time that Lyn sneezed in front of the entire class during her 5th grade state report? (Yeah—pretty bad!) And, of course, what do you when you spill something on your best friend’s (white!) carpet. And that’s just the beginning…
All of those situations were tough. I just wish the Fab Girls Guides to Sticky Situations had been around when I was your age! Life would have been so much easier!
Now I want to hear from you! What sticky situations have you been in? And what are some of your favorite sticky situations from the Fab Girls Guide to Sticky Situations? Let me know in comments to this post!
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now, i
now, i have this one friend who is annoyingly obnxoxoiis, and she is getting on my last nerve. my birthday is coming up and i dont really want to invite her, but my one Bff who is BfFs w/her, says that is i dont invite her, then she wont come. what shoyuld i do b/c i really want my BFF 2 come.
I've Been Stuck in Those Situations Before
I’ve been stuck in those situations before, too. It’s a very diffacult situation. I think the best thing to do is talk to your bff. Explain to her that you don’t really like this girl and she is kind of annoying. Say it in a nice way though. Tell you bff that you really don’t want to invite that girl. Also tell your bff that you really want her to go to your If she goes that’s great, but if she doesn’t go and misses the most important day in your life, you birthday ,because of something stupid like that, then I don’t think she is a true friend. Oh yeah, also tell your friend that she wouldn’t want you to miss her birthday because of this, so she shouldn’t miss yours. I hope this comment helps!! Good luck with your friend!!
sticky situations
Once me and my friends got in a fight about who would sit by on the swing and my friend said im sitting near her then another friend started getting upset and then all of a sudden they were walking away. Next thing i know they see me sitting on the swing about to swing and guess what. They start racing to the swing next to me and they both got there at the same time and they start pushing and shoving and it starts to get into a fight.1 of my friends says that i got on there first then the other one did. i had to yell loud to make them stop and every one was looking at me. That was an embarrising day.
This is...wow.
Elise: I don’t think you should hang out with this girl anymore. I mean, think about it: she and this other girl are not being very kind to you, are they? You should find some other friends.
Emily: I think you should talk to these girls about what they did and see the reasons why they did this to you. If you can, try to work it out. If you see that it’s to the point where you can’t, just say, “Look guys, I really enjoy being with you, but I think I need to spend some time with some other people for a little while.” They will probably understand, but one more thing to remember: if they still want to be tight with you, try to just not spend so much time with them.
Do this!
In the frist place, it’s hard being friends with three people! But I think that you should just say, You don’t have to fight over me! let’s just all be friends and sit somewere else! That’s the right thing to do!
I don't agree
It’s mean to leave anyone out. before u deside not to invite her. Think about how you would feel. fmi (For my informaion) is it a big party? if it’s just u and a few close friends then your BFF is being silly. But if it’s only the one girl not comeing……..
Well....
Well if this girl really doesn’t like that girl then she shouldn’t be forced to invite her. It’s her choice. I mean would you want to invite someone that you don’t really like? I get where you are coming from though!!
invinting people
you should invite your bff and her bff and just stay away from her or just ignore what she says. Like this one girl at my birthday party was showing off. The first thing she did was going to a bar and going around and around and around then jumped off barely any body was paying attention to what i was saying to them. Then she went on the pull up bar and did like 32 and started jumping on the trampiline and doing flips i got so upset and just ignored her and did my things that i liked to do then to my surprise everybody was looking at me and being amazed me and my show off friend got back to stopping being jealous of eachother and we were bffwlthsot [best friends forever who like to have sleep overs together]. So you should just tell her your annoying me and can you please just not talk that much if thats ok with you. She will probaly understand and be less annoying and you can be best friends then you dont have to worry about losing your bff and you could also tell your bff that she annoys you so can you tell her that i want her just to stop being annoying and tell your bff and she will tell her friend that then she will probaly understand and she will stop being annoying in the ways you want an dyou can be bffs and wont have to worry about your bff not coming to your birthday party.
Friends
Listen If your friend is really that obnoxious and she is relly annoying then dont invite her. I had the same problem I ended up not inviting her. When she heard about it she got really upset. I told her exactly the truth in what she was doing. She understood and we ended up talking and becoming friends.
i did tell her to please
i did tell her to please stop acting that way, and all of my friends and her said that that is her perosnality, and she refuses to change it. all of my friends treat her like a queen and always take her side on an argument, even if she is wrong.
obnoxsois
talk to your friends. Tell her that you like her and say that she would like to invite her but she needs to change her attitude. And to your other friend that if she was really likes you, she would help youind a way.
Well...
I guess your only choice is to invite this girl!! I know…ugh!! But, if you want your friend there you have to invite the other girl! I’m sorry, but just try to ignore her!
What?
If that girl really is your best friend, she’ll respect your opinion. It’s your birthday and your day, you should have the right to do what you want to do without your friend controlling your decision.
<3 audrey
Simply tell her she needs to
Simply tell her she needs to grow up. she’ll understand if you tell her what is happnin’.
RE: now, i
then that just shows neither of them are your true friends! Invite who YOU want to! Don’t let someone else control who you want to hang out with!
Hey
Dear Wowed-Out,
I have been in the exact same situation before! Maybe you should try to give her a chance! I know it sounds wierd, but maybe you could become friends with her. And if your BFF doesn’t come because of you not inviting her, maybe she’s not a true friend! Hope this Helps!!!!!!
a true friend
Talk to both friends about it. +… a true friend would not black mail another friend! Im sure your a bright girl… so dont worry if something goes wrong, you can always find new friends.
Wow
Wow, that’s tough! I’ve been there girl. You have three options- 1)Invite her. 2) Don’t invite her. 3) Tell your friend that it’s your party (politely) and you really don’t want her there, and your not trying to be mean. Besides, she can’t control who you like. But consider this-does anyone else like her? Make she can hang out with someone else-maybe ur BFF herself? Hope This Helps Aly
Friends
well, if it’s a small party (with just your closest friends), then you might not want to invite her. It’s less likely that she will find out, and her feelings won’t be hurt. but it’s a big party, then you don’t want to exclude her, and what are the chances that she won’t find out?
Stinky!!
One of the kids in my class smells really bad. She smells like rotten cheese mixed with sweat. (Yeah, I know pretty disgusting!!) Her smell makes me sick. I feel like I’m going to puke every time I get a whiff of her smell. She sits next to me in Social Studies class and near me in Science class. She keeps sitting in my seat (We don’t always have to sit in our assigned seats) and the smell keeps getting stuck on my chair. When I sit on my chair the next day the smell gets wiped off on me. I then have to take an hour shower just to get the smell off me. We talked to one of the teachers and the girl got sent to the nurses office. The nurse talked to her about good hygiene, but her smell hasn’t gotten any better. In fact, it’s gotten worse. I now, hold my nose when she walks by or when she’s near me, but I think I’m hurting her feelings. What should I do? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!! Thanks so much!!!
STINKY!!
I know how that feels because my brother sometimes comes home from school, and i guess he worked up a sweat and he smells like uuuuuuuhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!It got so bad i couldn’t even be next to him!But i don’t know how but,it got better abd he’s in middle school!So i know how you feel very well!
I KNOW HOW IT FEELS
I know how it feels to have a stinky brother. My brother plays football. I always get mad when he gets into the car.Worst I have to sit right next to him. I hope i’m not the only one who has that problem.
RE:stinky
first of all, if u confront her and tell her she mells bad u could hurt her feelings.so why dont u invite your friends over(including her)and have a paryt where u give out good-smelling lotions and shower gel and stuff?then let your guests take home what they want an she might use some of the stuff.hope this helps!
Good Suggestion
Thanks for the suggestion a lot!! I really appreciate!! I’ll think about it!
change your seat
if she smaells that bad you shuold write a persuasive latter telling her how you feel. you can also ask the nurse , or the health office to call her in and have a personal talk about hygeine I was in the same situation for a long time and I did what I told you to do. good luck
Thanks!!
Thanks so much for the comment!!
reply: Stinky!!
Well idk how to help u with the smell, but 1 thing I can tell you is PLEASE don’t 1.smell the seat RIGHT when she gets off 2.plug your nose when she walks by 3. Do anything else that will make her feel bad cuz a few years ago, I had a perspiration prob and wasn’t aloud to wear deodorant and people were REALLY rude to me. They always held there noses and when I got off a chair they would smell it. I’m better now since I wear DO but plz don’t make this girl feel bad. She may be aware of it. Maybe shes not aloud to wear DO. Don’t ask her why she stinks or anything. also a few years ago some ppl told my PE teacher and she had to talk to me about it and it wsa REALLY embarrassing. And you probably ARE hurting her feelings. Thats all I can say so Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ♥♥♥♥ xoxo Kelly
Thanks!
Thanks so much for the coments guys!!
hi
How’s it going? guess what happened tday, on my bus we were swerving on like a really sharp turn and i fell out of my seat back pack and all! and my busdriver in cluded and all the kids laughed at me!!!!!! talk about embarassing
Well...
Well what you could do is you could not plug your nose as she walks by and just hold your breath. Also you should apoligize for holding your nose. If she sits in your seat sit some where else. Maybe if it gets real bad kindly if you can help her. All you need to do is avoid her.
Thanks
Thanks for the comment I already apologized.
talk to her
talk to her shell undestand tell her (in a polite way) that she just needs to shower more often or put antipersperant on. but make sure u tell her in private .
THANKS TO ALL!!
Thanks to all who helped me get through the stinky time!! I really appreciate it and I hope things get better soon!! Once again, THANKS SOOO MUCH!!!
stinky
first u should get to be friends with her;get to know her.Then when your her friends with her make stuff to identify your friendship like friendship bracelets. Then when you guys are friends buy you and her body oder.Once you do that tell her that you bought those for you and her to smell the same ;you know so you guys can be identical.oh and befor you buy the deodorant buy some car freshnerthat you like and each time she sits beside you or passes by you just pretend to smell the freshnerand your dad told you to bring it to school for good luck.
Stinky!
I know how you feel. There’s a boy and a girl in my class who both smell exetremly bad. The girl likes me as a friend, but I really don’t. There are more reasons why I don’t like this girl. I just like to keep them private. When me and her get partnered up for something, I get a whiff and gag! It’s so bad. Help!
STINKY!!
Plan A: Well, the solution has bit you on the bottom, but you didn’t see it. If your school doesn’t have assigned seats, just don’t sit by her. If, the next day or so, she sits in your chair then change seats again.
Plan B: Become friends with her and arrange a gift exchange every week, then you can give her bath soap, bath fizzies, bath scrub puffs, anything bath, really.
Confront
I you go over to her and say I am really sorry if I am hurting your feelings but I really can’t stand that smell do you think you could come over to my house tomorow and then you should hand out good smelling things that you can use to wash up with.
Sticky Wicky!!
my gym teacher calls me “Smiley” and it is really annoying!! now everyone thinks i am too good to be true!! it is embarrassing!!
♥Smiley or not♥
me too!
lol me too! Our occassional sub always calls me “Smiles” since 4th grade! Its pretty embarrassing!
Well...
All you need to do is kindly walk up to your gym teacher and tell them sweetly “please don’t call me Smiley.” I know how it feels! People are always calling me names and I always do that.\
~Me, Myself, and I~
Smiley
Listen Smiley I think it is good that your teacher calls you Smiley. That just means you might get a good grade on your report card from her.
Smiley
I go to a summer camp every year and when I was like six I used to wear sunglasses all the time. Now one of the counselors calls me shades! I just kinda ignore it but you could privatetly ask your teacher to stop calling you that
i know how it feels
rofl i hated my name in kindergarten, so i tried to change it to lisa then the next year like ALL The parents called me lisa o_o
sticky wickey
Hey no sweat.Everyone MUST have EMBARRISING nicknames with teachers,parents and a adults kids know.Sooooo…
YOU ARE NOT ALONE ON EMBERRISING NICKNAMES!
From, Girl who acally cares
P.S sorry if i mis spelled something
P.S.S sincerly me
i kind do
i kinda have an embarrassing nickname but mines jelly and i like it everyone calls me that now since i was born
OMG I HAVE THE SAME PROBLOM
ALL MY TEACHERS AND FRIENDS THINK I’M A GOODY GOODY GIRL AND THAT I SHOULD DO SOMETHING BAD AND GET IN SOME TROBLE BUT I DONT WANT TO I.S.S. IS NO FUN BUT I WANT TO FIT IN THEY SAID I SHOULD CALL THE TEACHER A NAME AND GET IN TROBLE
WHAT DO U THINK? SHOULD I DO IT?
Love Miss Goody Goody Two Shoes
Dear Miss Goody Goody Two Shoes
I think you should do it. I think because you have never been in troble before that the teacher would let it slide and you would not get in troble. And you could show the crowd that you are willing to make sakrfises to be in their gruop. ANYTHING TO BE POPULAR RIGHT?
Love Emma
Dear whever said to do anything to be popular.
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!. who really cares whos popular? or who cares about getting in the popular crowd? ITS NOT WORTH IT!!!! nothing is worth disobeying rules or getting in trouble. Cuz even if your teacher doesn’t punish you, SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS GET HURT!!!!! If your teacher would let it slide, she shoudn’t. When someone does something wrong, they should get punished. Let just say a kid does something wrong (And this DID happen to my bro’s friend) and his parents shrug and let it pass. Well, this kid thinks “Huh, mom and dad don’t care. Lets try something a little worse”. and his parents keep shrugging, yea, they might say “Hey, don’t do that, its not nice”. But he won’t stop,a nd before you no it….. no, you don’t want to no what happens next. Let just say that it didn’t end good. See, when you or someone else does something wrong, they need to be punished. Cuz it is seriously for there/ your own good. (See, your parents were right after all!). Either way, its not worth it. Just hang with others and be yourself. Who knows, maybe you’ll be the most popular, For bewing the most well behaved and nicest. Try listening to your teachers and being courtious to your freinds/parents/ teachers. Even if other kids don’t act like it, theyt notice what you do. Just stay out of trouble and try it.
Signed, Mike 4 President (See Voting thing)
NOO!!!!
I don’t think she should do it at all. Some teachers are very strict and may not let her slide. Even if they did let her slide it still isn’t right. You are disrespecting a teacher and that isn’t good. And who would want a friend that doesn’t like them for who they are? They only like them because she is trying to fit in. That’s not a true friend you shoultn’t have to change yourself to make someone like you. They should like you for who you are. Don’t do it. You will regret it in the near future if you do.
xoxoMileyFanxoxo
Emma, no offence, but I think you are very wrong.
DO NOT DO IT!!!!!!!!! Emma, no offence, but I think that is very, very wrong. You shouldn’t call a teacher a name, just to fit in and be popular!!!! You never know what might happen. You could get a very bad punishment, and yes, it’s true they would stop thinking of you as a Goody Goody Two Shoes, but you would not feel happy about doing it. You might want to be Miss Bad Girl now, but once you do it you will feel awful. I’m a Goody Goody Two Shoes, but I don’t care. One time I tried that, and it did not work out the way I expected it to. Luckily, I’ve gained My Goody Two Shoes rating back, and I feel much beter.DO NOT DO IT!!!!!
~Lizi
Emma! NOOOOOOOOO!
Who cares about being popular anyway! It is just a person.
Emma...
Emma U R so OFF! Like, why do you think she should do ANYTHING to be popular? Would you? Think about this: How will this decision affect you in the future. Tomorrow? In a week? In a month? If you think about how it will affect you in the future, you can decide whether or not to do it. I don’t think she should do it. I mean, if your friends need you to get in trouble for you to be friends with them, they are not your true friends anyway. MedicineCat PS I just signed the comment that way because I’ve been trying to post comments for like a week, and I’ve been signing them all MedicineCat. If THIS one doesn’t get posted, I’ll be kinda mad. Because I know that the comments I tried to post before had nothing to do with anything on the DG site, and the last one was kinda complaining. But this has a lot to do with something, so if they don’t post this one it might have something to do with the name lol
reply to emma
No, u should not just do something to b popular i tottaly disagree with Emma. If ur friends tell u ur not bad enough for them that’s their loss. Their not good friends. So maybe hang out with another nice girl u know so u wont feel like goody goody two shoes (yeah at my school EVERYONE knows me cause my mom is a teacher and they think im goody goody two shoes) I’m not a nerd though lol
hey
hey my name is molly !! I don’t think you should do it because if you never got in trouble ten don’t start know and who ever told you then dont listen to them!!!!!!!!!!
OMG
No,I don’t think you should do it.Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should.I am a goody two shoes as well so i understand your deliema .If they were really your friend they would exepet you for who you are not what you wear.I just don’t think it is right Friends stick up for each other and don’t let each other get in trouble because you did something dumb.Look if i were you giving advicfe I waouldn’t tell anyone to do it because it is like telling someone to jump off the empire state building.
Take it from 14-year-old twins who have been in the sitch
YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT! Popularity is NOT IMPORTANT! A teacher will DEFINITELY get you in trouble for calling her/him a name, and we can almost guarantee that your principal will get you in a lot of trouble for it, not to mention your parents, because you know they’re gonna find out eventually. Do NOT DO IT. We didn’t, and we STILL HAVE TRUE FRIENDS that DON’T CALL US GOODY TWO SHOES. Also, if you do get accepted by this group, will they actually treat you kindly, or will they treat you like dirt? And what about all those other great people out there who AREN’T POPULAR, BUT WOULD MAKE GREAT FRIENDS? Once again, don’t do it.
Double Love Always,
Elise & Emily B.
what are you talking about???????????
I think it’s good that you’re a good student!!!!! I’ve never been in trouble before and i would never call a teacher a name just to fit in! Don’t listen to emma’s advice, if you’re a good student you should be proud of it, not change your habits just to fit in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Are you kidding emma? Real advice here.
ARE YOU KIDDING EMMA?! Anything 2 be popular? Yeah right. If your friends don’t take you 4 who u are, then they aren’t your friends. Imagine if someone else asked for help with the same situation. You would easily see that your friends are jelous of your perfact record! Don’t let your so called “friends” mess u up.
Lily pad
DISAGREED!!
I completely disagree with you. Just because she has never been in trouble before doesn’t mean that the teacher will let her slide. Some teachers are very strict. You shouldn’t have to do something wrong just to fit in with someone’s group. Who would want to be in a group that gets in trouble all the time? I certainly won’t want to be!! I think it’s good that teachers think that you’re well behaved and a good student, so if I were you, I wouldn’t do it!! Don’t do it!!
-Em
I Agree With Emma!
You SHOULD do it! If it means becoming popular, then do it! Popularity is the key.
DON'T DO IT!!
If I were you, wouldn’t do it. Sometimes it’s good to be a good student. If you call the teacher a name and get in trouble you don’t know what kind of punishment you will get you could get detention and that goes on you permanant record. And if you do it you will probably regret it sometimes in the near future. DONT DO IT!!!
Take a risk
I agree with Emma- just do it! You never know until you branch out. I think it’s time for you to shed your old skin and become someone new! Life is boring without thrills, or things to shake it up. Remember- life is measured not in the minutes that you are alive, but in the minutes that you really live. Go for it! Good bye, Miss Goody Two Shoes!!!!
Miss Goody Goody Two Shoes
I think you need to find some new ppl to hang with theese ppl are not what ur looking 4 in a friend.
Love Jordin
Dont do it!!!! I totally
Dont do it!!!!
I totally feel the same way. My friends like always tell me”Iv’e NEVER heard you scream and stuff.It really gets on my nervs. I just try to remember that it is actually good to be a good NO MATTER what your friends think.
from me!!!!!
Gotch ya covered....
I feel your pain! verybody thinks I am Ms.Perfect beause my teacher is always saying how good of a student I am. But it is kind of funny because when ever my teacher leaves the room my friend that sits next to me alwyas says ‘She think you are an angel!’. I mean I am a good student but Im definetly not Miss. Perfect! So I suggest wehn ever he calls you Smiley politley say ‘Um…could you please not call me that?’. Because I did exactly that and she dosent say anything aloud anymore! IT was like magic!
Hi Laura!
Hey! I’ve had plenty of sticky situations..and I’m only in 5th grade! But (thankfully) I’ve managed to make my way through them. But I actually had one today!!
Okay, one of my friends told some jerk-acting guys who I had a kinda really big crush on and they’ll probably tell the WHOLE 5th grade..(the guys), HELP! What should I do? She tried lieing over it, but I was sitting in front of them and heard. Should I ask her about it?! HELP!!
-heLp!:)
BAAAAAAAAAAAAAD friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!! You should tottaly confront your friend and tell her how you think that she should respect you, your feelings, and your secrets. It was SOOOOOOOO not cool the way she told thoses boys who you like!!!!
friend or not?
i have this friend ,we have been BFF’s for 3 years but sometimes it feels like she isin’t my friend .Like when i come up to her in the morning and say hi she sometimes rolls her eyes and mumbles something ,and when we read from our text books aloud and i read a word wrong she starts to giggle also a year ago she told me her crush and i said “You like (name will not be shown)!” alittle to loud RIGHT when one of his friends was passing by .He heard me a shouted “i’m going to tell (name not shown )(friends name not shown ) likes him! and ran away .I said i was sorry over and over again finally she accepted my apology and we were friends again .Eveything went smothly until she made me tell her who my crush was and i gave in and told her i thought there was no harm right ?Wrong a few days after she went righ up to my crush in front of me and told him i liked him VERY loudlyright there and then .When i was done crying she told me i had to know what it felt like to have your friend tell your crush they like him ( I DID NOT TELL HER CRUSH SHE LIKED HIM !!!!)i was angry at her for some time , but nowwere friends again ,but sometimes she makes jokes about me when she THINKS i’m not around + the gigglin.So sould i move on or stay frieds??????????pleze andswer! (P.S. sorry if i spelled anything wrong.)
sticky situations
if you have a situation, try not to cry or be sad about it. Say that its a rumer and laugh it off!
How Mean!
That’s harsh! Talk to you friend about again. Nicely let her know that you mean business, that you know what she said because you HEARD her. Ask her why she said those things. Is she mad at you? You definately don’t want to be friends with someone who will spill all your secrets for no reason. Good luck!