Your friend is very clingy. And there are different reasons why she is that way: 1. she dosn’t have many (or any) other friends and shes afraid if she loses you she’ll be alone. If thats the problem, let her know she’ll always be your BFF and include her in the things your new friends do. Tell her she should do what your doing and make new friends! 2.She’s shy. Its not very big but true. She’s afraid that she’ll have to make new friends too and meet these people. A lot of people are shy! So that might be a reason if she dosn’t have a lot of friends. Help her break out of her shell! Tell her she dosn’t HAVE to meet these new people, but she should. And just hang out all together with you there. 3.this might not be the reason but she dosn’t want to share you. She wants you for herself. If you are, for example, are really popular then she dosn’t want to let you go. Tell her that, again, she’s always your BFF!

And for all these, if she dosn’t listen put your foot down and tell her its not fair to you! If she feels its unfair to HER if you have other friends that turns it around and makes it unfair to you you always have to be with HER. Tell her nice and calm at first but if it never works THEN put your foot down. Hope this Helps!!!

-Kelly

I hate when this happens!! Does this sitch happen 2 any of u??

I would have to say that if she(or he) was a real friend, they’d let you hang with other people. Although if you know they don’t have other friends, try inviting her over to the party with your other friends. Just as long as the other friends are okay with it. You see, I had the same issue with my best friend. She had a lot of friends, so we couldn’t hang out together most of the time. And even though I was a little jealous, I figured that spending to much time together would be bad for our friendship, Plus she always blew off this other girl who would take up all of her time on purpose. And this girl also copied her favorite everything! It was really irksome.So that’s why she blew her off a lot. I feel bad about it now though, so don’t blow off your clingy friend. Just make time for the both of them. That’s my advice. - Gypsy Girl

No, you don’t have to choose between friends. If you do, someone will get hurt in the end. But think about it from your BFFs point of view. She’s probably insecure, and at this time in our lives, lots of people are. Just include her when you do things with other friends. Maybe your other friends will like hanging out with her, and she’ll make new friends. This works out well for both of you. She could also be naturaly shy (like me). Trust me, it’s not easy being shy. It’s also not easy having a clingy friend. Well, that’s life. Just try talking to her, and if she doesn’t have that many friends, introduce her to new people.

-nel-

That was a problem 4 me too. But i was the jealous friend! When my friend told me that she wanted me and the other girl to be friends. Well.. we became friends after we knew each other a little more. Maybe u should tell ur friends to get together to know each other a little more.Good luck! =]LOL[=

If they are your real friends it shouldn’t matter!!!!

Something like this happened to me. I had 2 BFF and we were all friends. But they were mad at each other. One wanted me to choose between them. The other one said she didn’t care if she had to hang with her ex BFF. I picked her. I told the other that if she was really my BFF she shouldn’t want me o choose. She stil asked me to choose s I stopped hanging with her.

you should tell them not to be jeli you will alway be there friend no matter what.

that happenend to me once…..i had i friend she always spent more time with this other girl than with me!!! i mean i wouldn’t mind if she did that like a few days i week but no every day i mean sometimes you really do feel left out…..so i hung out with my other friends and eventually she came back…………..

Ive been in both you and your friends situation before, so I know how you both feel. maybe your friend has been in a situation before when she has lost a best friend or someone close to her tbecause they all of a sudden stoped paying attention to her.on the other hand she may just be jealous that you are making new friends. What you should do is when you make new friends just make sure to introduce your friend into them and then maybe she won’t feel so left out or lonely like shes going to end up losing your friendship. but if she isn’t willing to do that, if she wants you to chose then “you may be better off finding new friends then keeping the old” !!!

I have the same problem! my really good friend is awesome, but sometimes she gets so annoying because whenever i talk to her about my other friend she just looks at me and changes the subject. I feel like she wants me to be her only friend!

ive been there what i did was i told the two people that i would play with them oneday and then play with my other friend but of cource you dont have to choose just seperate time between them and if that dose not work tell the person who is disgreeing with you that if they cant share time they cant have time to spend with you and if one of your friends live closer think about playing with after school and then the one that lives farthest play with at school or some other time if that does not work tell them them that if they cant work out when to play with you that you will be with someone else but what i mean is dont stress out over problems yourfriends cant work go find more friends or trie to get the ones fighting to be friends that way you can all spend time together go to the mall and have sleep overs together have fun with them get them closer if it dose not work out just seperate time. victoria

Well You shouldn’t have to chose. You can have all the friends you want. You can have fun with both and I think your friend should give your pther friend a chance. Maybe you all will have fun together. Just talk to your friend that’s giving you a hard time. You shouldn’t have to pick one just because your one friend is jealous and thinks you might want her instead!!! Just talk and say you want to be friends with her and the other girl too. You don’t have to chose between any. I think playing with one other friend is easier because when i had 2 playing they would get in as fight and i would be pulled in the middle. Now we only talk and sometimes play together, it’s way way way easier!!!!

I would first talk to your BFF about having other friends and tell her that this is a free country and you can be friends with anyone you please. If that doesn’t work she’s not your real Bff and you need to move on.A real bff would let you have other friends besids herself.

I’ m with you Samantha! If your friend is going to make you choose then shes definitely not a true best friend! Talk it out, if she still wants you to choose, then give her a break. Ask her why she cant get along with your other friend. Remember, its up to you!

No, you don’t have to choose between friends. I have had my friends do that to me but all I had to do was talk it out with them. After my BFF met my new friend (the new girl at school) she liked her and to this day we are STILL BFFs!!! And, we hang out ALL the time!!!

when my best friend would go places with her friends and then brag about it to me I felt angry and left out

do you act mean or act different to her when you are with you other friends

so make sure you invite her to go with you and you other friends!! and then she’ll most likley stop being soo clingy

Talk you your friend. That is how my friend treats me. She is definatly not a good friend. Then she has other friends but I can’t. But I don’t let her own me like that. Don’t let your friend own you and which ever friend is nicer to you and doesn’t act like she owns you is the friend you want, and you can have fun with. =]

Ashley, 13 IA

I have a bff like that if i hang with someone else she gets mad! she moved and didnt even give her new phone # she never even thinks about callin me! i got over after a copuple months and i have a new bff that would do that but istl miss my old one

my bff does the exact same thing.ever science third grade she started getting jealous about my new friends because they were more popular than her.i have a new friend now and we do just about everything together.we shop together like every weekend.now that my bff goes to a different school i only see here at church.its really hard to hang out with her now that she goes to a different school.i tell her i have other friends and if she dosent like it than to get over it!

you should talk to you’re BFF. what are her reasons for being jealous? is she just being stingy with you? if she is, talk to her and always, always, tell her the truth! if she just won’t stop, you may want to drop this friendship.

-Alli, age 12, Missouri

If your friend is that mad that you have another friend then what is she your friendf for anyway? Obviousely she’s jealous and doesn’t know how to handle it. So try to talk to her and reason with her. Just remember that you can have more than one BFF.

Obviously your friend is feeling uncomfortable with herself because she feels like you might leave her. You should talk to her, first remind her that she’s your friend and you care and would never leave her. Then tell her that you want a whole variety of friends, you want to hang out with other people. And always reassure her that you will stick with her!

my friend came and told me she liked some girl she just met better that me. i am so mad i mean we have been friends for 4 years!

I had to choose between my two bestest friends…I felt horrible after I chose…..On one hand I’d have more fun with “C”, but not get any work done…while my other friend, “N”, would be paired up with someone she doesn’t even know.( She gets shunned in my eyes) And she’s like a sister to me. So I end up choosing “N” over “C”. But I always choose “N” over “C”. I think “C” feels bad. And I do to. I told her my whole situation, so she could understand. I still feel bad. Very Bad. Should I forget, or do something else? IDK, I need help from PPL. - Elphy

I think you should talk it through and figure out what is wrong.

• Kalley

i don’t get it with my friends. especially one of my friends. she acts like only she can have new friends, and she gets mad at me when i get jealous that shes ignoring me. Now i don’t ignore her. but when i make new friends and take a break from her for a tiny bit, she gets all mad and acts all stiff and snobby.

I have had a friend like that. Say this: ” You know I am friend and that you are a very close friend. I have others friends too and I want to hang out with them also. Maybe we could hang out with them together. Sometimes I can definatly hang out with alone. I hope you’re ok with that because that’s what friends do and if you don’t want me to be happy, then you’re not my friend.”

I am going through the same thing kinda. my friend dosen’t like another one of my friends. And she always says how anoying my friend is but i dont dont think she is anoying. I dont know what to do.

Miranda <3

Don’t choose between your friends just tell your friend that you need to get new friends because you think it is better having a variety. Put her in situations where she has to find other friends other than you but make sure you don’t lose your friend in the process.

If that girl is really your best friend, she won’t care that you have other friends and don’t hang with he a much, as long as you’re happy. Best friends stick by each other no matter what and RARELY get mad at eachother and if she’s mad at you for hangin’ with other girls, then your friendship ain’t built to last. now if your’re not including her, leaving her behind and hanging with other people, and never hanging with her at all even when you have free time, then she has the perfect right to be mad at you. I mean you’re her bff and being bff is a promise to stick together & be there for eachother. if you’re not there for her, you aren’t her bestfriend.

Talk with your friend about it as calmly as possible. You can have as many friends as you want. Maybe you can try to spend time with them together. If that dosen`t work, try the other advice. :-)

If she was your real friend she would know that you love all your friends equally. A true friend doesn’t make you choose. You should let her know that you do value your friendship but you do need other friends. If she still continues to be jealous you should just drop her. Let her know that it might be better if you weren’t friends. A true friend doesn’t make an effort not to or be jealous of your other friends.

i think your bff might be upset about something, like maybe your new friends aren’t treating your bff nicely behind your back and she doesn’t want them around,and she thinks you will be mad at her if you tell her. Talk with him or her and see whats going on because that’s happening to me right now, one of my bff’s friends are not being nice to me and won’t let me near her sometimes and i wish my bff would notice it and talk to me, even though when she’s doing that my bff tries not to leave me out, and i’m greatful about that, so before you end the friendship HAVE A TALK!!! advice chic=)

well look this is whats happening to me now i have a new bff and my ex-best friend was soo jealous that she said my new bff is using me!! To solve this problem just treat your ex-bff just as a friend and play or talk to her sometimes! And treat your new bff as a best friend! talk to her more play with her more and treat her more specially. Trust me the same thing is happening to me!! :) :)

well if shes a good friend she will understand that you can have more than one friend but if she can`t understand that maybe shes not a btrue friend or maybe shes feels like you will not be your friend anymore if you have more than one.