How can I get my big sister to let me hang out with her friends?
Be extra nice to your sister, but you should still be yourself! If you have to change who you are to hang out with her and her friends, it’s not worth it! And definitely don’t act annoying if she still says no. She may change her mind someday, and you don’t want to get into trouble with your parents now!
–Molly, age 9, N.Y.
Why don’t you create so much fun of your own that they’ll want to join you?! Whip up some chocolate chip cookies, or make jewelry or a cool craft. Or pop in a new DVD or crank up the karaoke. They’ll come running for sure!
–Aubrey, age 11, Wash.
If you already asked your sister a million times and she’s always said no, give her a break. Put yourself in her place: Would you want your little sister hanging out with you? Instead, invite a friend of your own over, read a book, or do something to keep yourself busy. It will make you and your sister happy!
–Courtney, age 10, Va.
Just be yourself! If they can’t accept you for who you are, then are they really worth hanging out with? Sure, it’s great to look up to your older sister and her friends, but don’t try to be them. They’ll either accept you or they won’t. If they don’t, you need to move on!
–Rachel, age 10, Ky.
Try working your request into some other conversation. Instead of begging to hang out with them, say, “My friend saw Pirates of the Caribbean and said it was awesome. Maybe we could see it sometime?” If that doesn’t work, try it again later in a different situation.
–Melissa, age 10, N.J.
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Sister story
You know that your sister loves you, but at times she’s going to need a break. Trust me I’m the older sister and my sister is bugging me.
If the older sis says no, give her some time off. She’ll always love, never forget that!
Re:Sister Story
Yes, I know your sister luvs you v.much, but she needs a break most of the time!! She is older than you, and she is facing different/harder problems, and she might want to talk them out with her friends without you listening. Also, she is with you almost all the time!! She needs a break to recupperate with her BFF’s so she doesn’t get completly sick of you and go insane. I’m sure you would b the same way if u had a younger sis who wanted to b w/ u all the time.
TOTALLY
I HEAR YA GIRLFREIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am an older sister and i HATE it when my little sister asks if She can play with my friend and i. Just play with her when your friends are gone.
sister's
I have two older sister’s. Sometimes they let me hang with them and there friends but sometimes they need space! Let them hang out with there friends and let them do what they want. And after a couple weeks ask them if you could hang with them for 10 minuets. I know how it feels to be an older sister couse i’m at my bff’s house basically 4 day’s a week and she has two younger brother’s that always want to be with us. Just give them alot of space!
—Lexie—
same problem
i had the same problem as you my sister would never let me hang out with her friends until i started to be nicer to my sister and cary on alot more conversations its hard being the younger one i know how you feel
heres some tips
1.tell youre sister you care about her and would like to hang out with her and her friends 2.ask youre sister if she wants to hang out with you and some of youre friends 3. keep trying to ease youre sister untill she finaly lets you hang out ps be nice caring a kind and eventualy youre sister well let you hang out mabey with her and her pals
Put yourself in your Sisters shoes!
I always want to hang out with my sister and her friend. There both older then me, and her friend like me for who I am. It’s my sister who makes a fuss about me hanging around her and her friend! And for a little bit I had no Idea why she wouldn’t want me to play with them. Untill my BFF invited her to her bday party. I didn’t barely get to talk to my friend! They were always talking about a book that they had both read but not me. And when we were playing a game and my BFF was a team captin she picked my OLDER SISTER to be on her team first and someone else picked me. I guess when there’s an older kid around even your BFF can’t help but idmiray them. I never bothered my sister and her friend again and she never fusst about playing with my friend ether! I guess sometimes you have to really feel how anoying it is before you can really understand! So next time you want to hang out with your sisters friends think: I wouldn’t want my older sister hanging out with my friends and hogging them all the time! hope this helps you to understand a little more! -Danial
hola
ur sistah luvs u im sure. but maybe let her have time for just her frens and her. she is alwayz round u and luvs u but wants some time w/ her frens. plz understand.
same!
I am an older sister and I let my sister hang out with me and my friends SOMETIMES!!! The problem is, if I let her do it too often she won’t ever go away! You know that saying that goes “I give you and inch and you take a mile”? That’s what it is like. It is best to hang out when she lets you and go away RIGHT when she asks you so she knows it’s cool if she lets you hang out for a little because then sje knows you will respect her wishes when she wants to have some alone time. Hope this helps! Love, Experienced big sis
It's Totally Natural
It’s totally natural. A lot of younger siblings go throught this drama. if she won’t let you hang out with her friends, then be creative and start making something cool and interesting! Then when your big sis and her friends pass by, they might notice you and come over! Seriously, it’s natural, so don’t worry about it. And maybe you could even ask your mom if you could invite some of your friends over!
Saima
age difference
Well it depends on how old she is compared to you. If shes like 5 years older then you, you should try to make other friends, because I have a sister whos older then me too and I tryed to make friends with them but all they do is get mad or annyed. But if shes younger you should maybe try to act more mature and maybe nicer.
-Ashley
Good Luck
RE:age difference
it is is just natural that she doesnt want a younger sib hangin w/her.Trust me,i never want my little sis hangin w/ me and my buds.
Errr...
My sister had some friends on the street - and I had different friends on the other end of the street. One day our groups came together to make a play - then after that I just started to hang out with my sister’s friends. Of course my sister said things like “You stole my friends!!!” But eventually it stopped. I don’t really know how we got to be friends, but now we are really close. Just be yourself! Good luck!
well...
i have an older brother and i hang out with his friends and him a lot, even more than my friends. i dont have a crush on one of them or any thing, (my twin sister does though) but i find that they are a lot of fun to hang out with, my brother feels uncomfortable when we are playing with him and his friends, but we found that once he realized that his friends liked us (one has a crush on my twin sister) he knew that he had no reason to object to what we were doing. (my sister had the one who likes her,she likes him, to tell my brother that they all liked us and he had nothing to worry about) so if your sibling’s friends like you but your sibling feels uncomfortable just tell your sibling how everyone else is fine and that they shouldnt worry. our younger half -sister, Lily, is fine with her own friends but at one piont she wanted to play with us and our friends but we just told her about her classmate who called to ask if she wanted to play, and she had been hopeing her classmate would ask to be her friend and that fixed it very well
T&L(Thessily and Leslie) we are the =^..^=
I have had the same
I have had the same situation before and it really is a point of view, if you think about it, is it your sisters friends don’t like you, or your sister wants to do things with her and her friends ALONE, yes that means you!!! but if you don’t ask her for a long time, maybe if her and her friends agree, you can sit out side on lawn chairs with them or sit in your sisters room with them, but don’t push it! your sister is saying yes out of a fraction of what you wanted. and that is good, comparing to what your sisters other answer.
big sis's comment
Take it from me an older sis SIBLINGS NEED THEIR SPACE! but she should certainly let u tag along some of the time.
It happened to me
My best-friend was having a sleep-over at my house,and she thinks my sister is “cute”. So my sister kept trying to play with us (She succeed) and it felt like she was taking my friend away from me! You’ll end up being left out and with a SAD SISTER!!
—Isabella
Well here's the deal...
You must love your sister’s company right? Well, she might just want to hang with her friends for a while. Believe me, I have an older sister and I like being a friend with her and she prbbly would nvr say it but I think she thinks of me as a friend sometimes. And then when her friends are around I usually just sit with my mom. She’ll like the privacy and hopefully she’ll invite you to hang with her. It’s not likely but I think it’s just always been a “sister’s rule” She hangs with her friends you hang with yours. Maybe you two can try and talk about it. To tell you the Truth, I’ve always wanted to hang with my sister’s friends too! I can’t exactly explain it, but it always seems like a rule not to wonder into your sister’s friendship.
It's her age
Well, your sis is a teenager or older preeteen,right? I know it might seem hard since you look up to her, but leave her alone for a while. It’s just her age. When you’re her age school and social stuff is a BD and, even though she loves you,older kids-especially girls-just want some time out with their friends.And only their friends.
Ask
Ask her if you can do something with her like rent a movie or something. If she says ok, then when you go to get a movie or what ever you are doing then she will most likely to invite her friends so you will be happy because she will most likely know you want to hangout with them.
2 different crowds
I think you should hang with your age crowd rather than your sisters group. Even if there only a year or 2 older their opinions, interests, etc. can be way different than yours, where as kids your own age will probably have simmilar intrests.
friendly
I think you should just be your self if that doesnt work maybe you shuold talk to your sister .
Mabey....
Well my sister and I always want to hang out with our older sister. We just think her friends are so cool. Just be nice to your sister. Start a conversation with her friends. Or ask her if you can hang out with her and her friends. Hang in there.
I know how you feel
I know how you feel i have a older sister. What I do is try to make freinds with your sisters friends. If you get all wound up will you are with them don’t get mad at them. Imagine if you had a younger sister or have a younger sister and all they did is play with you and your friends that would be very annoying. So you can call up your own friends and hang-out with them.
Maybe you should...
Really, I think you should let her be with her friends and only her friends. She just want to relax with her pals. If you had had a long day of school, parents are being, you know, and you just wants to be just with your friends, would you seriously want your little sister to tag along? Just let her be. Maybe, if you really want to spend time with her, you could do it later. Then you’ll both have fun without interruptions from friends.
-Courtney :-)
Just a thought
I hate to be brutally honest but you might not just get to hang out with your sister and her friend. Why don’t you hang out with your friends and have a good time. Don’t worry about what your sister is doing. In time things will smooth over.
Start slowly
If you want to hang out with your sister and her friends, try approaching it carefully. If they’re going to watch a movie at home, you could ask if it would be okay if you watched with them. If your sister says no, don’t whine, just say okay, and maybe say why you wanted to watch. Don’t forget to tell your sister that you want to hang out with her because you really admire her, and think that she’s cool. She’ll probably be really flattered and see things from your point of view. Try not to be pushy though, or she’ll think your immature. Make sure to be there for her, just as you know that she’s there for you. My sister and I took a really long time to get along, but now I can talk to her about just about anything, and it’s really great having an older person who’s ‘been there, done that’.
Ur So Rite Girl!
Girl, u r so rite, approach her slowy, then it could work!
stuck in the middle
if all you big sisters think you have it bad well I’m the middle child and I have a big brother and a little sister so since my siblings hate each other they are always fighting over who gets to play with me. but I see through both sisters eyes because I all ways want to play with my big brothers friends and I’m always getting anoyed by my little sister because she wants to play with me and my friends.