Yes, there’s ALOT of awesome advice for us to use- it definetly explains so much to girls! Thank DG for posting it!

that was super cool

last year me and my bff “broke-up” becuase she said some EXTREMLEY mean things about me for no reason. she told me that i was a snob, jerk, and that it was my fault that she failed one of her classes. she also wrote that i was a bad christain because i missed church(FYI, i missed church to visit my sick grandpa in the hospital, which i had told her a million times!).i WAS going to tell her that i was sorry for doing those things (if i did), but then she gossiped about me to my other friends so they’d hate me too! even though i felt better when i ended the freiendship,and explained everything to my other friends, i’ve spent the last 5 months wondering if i had made the right choice. posting this chapter showed me that i did. this girl was The Bully to me. she was mean for no reason and went out of her way to hurt me. Thanks, DG! i’m alot happier now! :-)

I had sooooo sooo many frennemies last year! But now because of carmen and Dallas ive decided to get rid of those dreaded frennemys! I really understand how to choose freinds now! Plus Im planning on putting all four books on my wish list! :)

Thts awsome, im SO getting that for Christmas! The Fab girlz book sneak-peek is so cool. I found out that one of my friends is a Cling-On, and I realized that I dint really want to be her friend. We still play with each other, but as “Student-Friends”. Last Friday came trajudy. My Student-Friend was crying cuz one of her “Fake-Friendz” told her awful things at there comunity center the day before, and then she asked her to be her “friend”! That Friday, the SAME GIRL said MEAN THINGS to her! Then the SAME GIRL was being a trader to my BFF. At the begining of the year, my friend was her friend and my BFF NEVER spent time with me! I warned her that she pretends to be other girls friends, but she insisted! The mean girl always whent “crying” to her “boyfriend”! But really, I think hes just her Bf to be “COOL”! I mean, were in 5th grade! At the end of the recess, my student-friend was confessing and saying “You were right about her, shes a pretender!”. In the weekend I saw the MAGS Fab Girlz sneek-peek, and found out that that girl was “The Backstaber!”. No offense DG but that IS like labelling! Houever you are, that is reading this RIGHT KNOW, thank-you so much!

Thank you so much for this book! I had a friend who was always mean to me, she also yoused me1 this book really helped me to see really what she saw in me!

my “friend” will be totally fake one day totally clingy the next the gossip the next and the backstabber and THE PART TIME BULLY. then some day she’ll be the perfect friend Plus she’ll abandon you in a heartbeat if she gets a boyfriend . believe me it happened 4 times. so thanks DG good advice

I have a frenemy why says i’m anorexic and ugly and tells me to go rot in a god forsaken corner, but she has been there for me in thick and thin. What should i do?

yea it helps a lot

i’m about to get the book, i can’t wait!!!!!!!

i have a friend who is the ideal friend, but she fits mostly under “the clinger”. it gets annoyinng that she is alwys following me around and callibng me as soon as she gets home. she is the best friend i have ever had, but sometimes i feel trapped by her and her “clingyness”. please help me, i dont know what to do!<:-(

thnks DG it was so awesome and it helped me with a lot of my friendship problems

i feel for you! since she spilled your secrets, then she probably isn’t your friend after all. if this girl is hassling you, speak up! don’t stay quiet. tell her how you feel, and if that doesn’t work out too well, TELL AN ADULT. a counsler, a teacher, your mom or dad, any adult you TRUST. hopefully things get better. ~hannah~ =^..^=

Thanx!! thats helpful, since im dealing with a frenemy right now. But im not letting her get to me. if she doesn’t want to be my friend and ditch me and my other friends for other peps that she used to HATE, thats her problem!! And they don’t even like her, they just hang with her so i can get mad. Anyways, Happy Thanksgiving and have a great Christmas!! and always remember, if they’re a true blue friend, they’ll stick with u the whole way. if they ditch u, thats their problem, they’re the ones losing a good friend.

If your friend said and spread all those things about you ahe’s not a true friend. maybe she did it to embarass you. You did the right thing by ignoring her. That showed her that you can be teased but still stand strong.

My friend lies alot. She even PRETENDED to call one of my crushes houses and said my four other crushes were there.Plus, she even said they cussed me out! I told my mom about it, but when we confrinted HER mom she woulden’t own up!!!!!!! The next day she pretended nothing had happened! Is that twofaced or what?

One of my friends totally fits The Kidder description. I have A LOT of friends and she doesn’t have as many so she gets REALLY jealous of me. She is mean to me in front of my other friends to make me look bad and then she says JUST KIDDING. she is always trying to be friends with them. But I have explained to them that she is so mean and they understand. But STILL! The major problem is that she lives next door to me so there’s no way to avoid her. Now she keeps asking me who I like and I won’t tell her because I have told her past crushes and she blabbed it out. She keeps guessing and I think she knows who it is. Shes like ” U don’t like Connor do u? Hes sooo short.” Now I realized that she is doing all this bcuz she is jealous. That was great advice!

I like to tease my friends sometimes and I hope they don’t think I’m a kidder!

If i was you, I wouldn’t be their friend anymore cause you said this happened twice already. I’ve had a friend who has done this to me in fifth grade, but now that we’re older, she has matured a bit and we’re friends again. Maybe you should take a break or just let it go all together.

Good luck, Sassy N Sweet

Need help all you need to do is talk to a counselor or someone you can trust like a parent or if you have some other ”REAL FRIENDS” maybe you can try talking to them. I think if they never stop hang in there because the same thing happends to me all the time and we always end up getting back together. Well if none of that works try talking to all of them indivisually. Espesally the two faced one do her first. If that dosen;t work let them go find new friends you can’t hold on to them forever. Better friends will come to you sooner or later.

Seems you’re in a very difficult situation. recently 2! Next time they insult you, say, “Oh, I’m sorry you feel that way.” Let those awful insults disappear from your ming like smoke disappears from a chimney. Do you believe what they say? If not, remind yourself that nothing they say is true. Remember that all they are is a speck of sand on a beach, and friendship and kindness are the ocean. They can’t determine or wipe away your happiness. It’s their problem , not yours.

Some people care about what other people think, worry about what they say Let a little gossip comin’ from a loose lip ruin a perfect day Sayin’ bla bla bla just a jackin’ their jaw Gotta let it roll off of my back. I don’t care a dern what other people think What do ya think about that?!

Rizzy/ Dr. Phil

You are in a state that I was just in. My friend was all of a sudden in a horrible mood. She started rounding up everyone in the school and telling them how mean I am and how i get whatever i want and i really don’t. Go up to them and tell them that you aren’t trying to be selfish. Tell them that if they have a problem with you that’s their problem, and that you don’t have a problem with them. And if they say that you’re ugly, tell them that you can’t help how you were born. I’m sure you’re not ugly. ~Elizabeth

I think you might want to double check that. If she’s an “ideal friend” how can she also be a frenemy? If the only problem is that you’re her first friends, that really isn’t much of a problem. Maybe she was going through something and just pulled out of it. Or maybe she’s just never known how to approach people before. The bragging would be because she’s just so happy to finally have friends that she wants to make sure you guys keep liking her, so she’s trying to show you how great she is. She probably doesn’t even think that highly of herself, and is just trying to (like I said) make sure you guys keep liking her. Not to mention that if you’re getting the feeling she thinks you’re clingy, she could just be surprised at someone showing so much interest in her.

If she’s never had friends before, I think it’s great that you’ve reached out to her, and you shouldn’t write her off too soon. Give her a while and see if she doesn’t get over bragging and thinking highly of herself after she’s sure you guys are there to stay.

I don’t know the situation, though, and maybe I’m off. Still, at least consider what I’ve said so you don’t end up ditching a potentially great friend just because you’re the first people to see anything good in her. Give it time, pray over it, talk about it with your other friends…just don’t label her a frenemy and be done with it before you’re sure you’re doing the right thing!