I feel you need to tell her that you no longer trust her and it has made a serious inpact on your what is left of our friendship. Tell her that the friendship will have to end if she does not stop. Ask her if she would like it if you did that to her. Megan

You really need to move on.She isn’t REALLY your friend if she treats you this way.The next time she says something to you,just ignore her and keep on walking.Just remember,just because she spills the beans about you doesn’t mean you have to spill hers. -Sara

that must be sad because she was ur friend and totally hurt your feelings and told ur secrets!!! i think you should talk to her about it in a private place

I know how you feel. My ex-friend did the exact same thing. It makes you feel like she doesnt even care if her feelings get hurt. You need to not be her friend any more!-Alli

I let my BFF sleep over and we told each other her crushes and she spilled them on monday. Luckily my crush fel the same (strong) way so things turned out for the better! If he did not feel like that it would be horrible!! I get how you feel though cuz that was how i felt at first!! :)

the drama of life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i dont think you should forgive this friend…she has backstabbed you and betraded you…you thought you could trust her but she just spread all your secrets…dont think that this little drama is your fault because its not this person is just being cruel & mean…just try your best to not think of her…dont let her put u down…just keep your head up & think positive…this has happened to me so many times & now i dont let anyone know my secrets unless i truly know that i can trust them…but i mostly tell everyone my problems even the guys at school & they help me out & give me good advice…so i dont really have any secrets just to tell certain people…& if someone tells my secret it will be okay yes i may be inbarassed but it could be worse…so just think posoitive about this friend problem…

DUHHHHHHHH! I mean totally you should.She doesn’t deserve to even be your friend.Find a new friend.I reccomend someone on the quiet side and not that popular.From my experience that kind make loyaller friends.

Dear Backstabbed, Try talking to her once more. Maybe she will stop. If that doesn’t work, tell her that you don’t want to be friends with someone you cant trust, or that you and her should “take a break” (Hopefully if you spend some time with some other people, and not with her, she will get the hint) P.S.- I’ve bean through the same thing

As Ali said, This girl is not friend material. If you don’t want your secrets spilled, don’t stick with her. I think it’s time for you to move on. -advice to”Backstabbed”

I don’t think you should tell you’re friend secrets if she does that. If this is the first time then forgive her, it may have slipped out. Admit it. All of us have gossiped once or twice about our friends. But if this continues then go find some new friends!

you must feel really dumped, dont you? If this girl treats you like you say, she isnt worth your friend ship, your obviously a great person, dont be hurt by the things she says, but dont start secrets about her and play her game, just tell her that you dont apprectiate the way she has treated you and that she is no longer worthy of your friendship. GOOD LUCK! ~ I feel your pain

i think u are on your way to solving your problem!! but u need to talk to her in private and tell her about it again! after your talk, wait a few day or weeks and watch what happens! either she will be a true friend and zip her lip or she will be a backstabber and spill your secret beans!!!!! if she does stop, forgive and forget and hope that it wont happen again! but if she doesnt stop, confront her once more and tell her u r though trusting her and being her friend!! i hope u take my advice and u solve your problem.

luv, soniya shah (12) - texas

I have had this problem in the past, and a great way to solve it is to not tell even your closest friends something that absolutely can’t get out, or anything really personal. And if a friend does this a lot, or talks about other girls to you, chances are that she may talk about you too, so be careful. Those girls feed on the flaws or gossip of others. Just be smart, and resist the urge to spill all at a sleep over.

You should really end the friendship. i mean, would a true friend laugh at you when you’re not joking, and talk about you behind your back? i had a problem like that, but the girl is still friends with one of my best friends, because although she makes fun of most people, she doesn’t make fun of that girl. Remember, if your ‘friend’ is saying stuff about people behind their backs, that she would not say to their face, then they should not be saying it at all.

nobody wants to be betrayed or back stabbed by a so-called “friend”. i think you should move on and look for better friends. you don’t deserve a bad, two-faced friend like that, nobody does! she should learn that spilling secrets is a bad thing that nobody should do!

one of my fave things to say is,”forgive and forget.” just forget her, and move on. real friends wouldn’t do that to you! just stop talking to her and after a while, she might say that she is sorry!

You said yourself that she got “ticked off”! It’s just a phase really. And in a few days that she realizes that she shouldn’t be mad at you because you didn’t tell a secret,and if she’s still mad then maybe you should call her,or IM her,or even have your mom call her mom!!! But there’s know reason for to do something with someone she hates just to get back at you!

-Isabella

ps:Who’s idea was it to swap secrets?

you should tell her that you are willing to still be her freind, but that your friendship will never be the same and stick to it!!!!!!! never treat her like that and don’t insult her while you talk to her

Your friend probably dosen’t mean to be bad. She just doesn’t know how to keep her mouth shut. You can still hang with her, just don’t tell her any secretes! -Katherine

I think it is time to move on. And you know some sad news? Everyone except for my friend, Abby are two faced friends on the block. So I’m always getting hurt. But I found new friends. (Not on the block but I invited new ones over) But they just aren’t trustworthy.

<3 Lauren

i have a friend just like her and believe me it turns out okay. we got in a big fight and just started not hanging out. now i am much more happier and when i get angry i put it all out in sports!

i can tell you that the truth hurts sometimes. ive been through so much in that kind of situation. at my old school there were a group of girls that would pretend to be your friend and then stab you in the back. it was kind of sad because i was only in gr 2 and 3. i was so young and confused then and i thought that everyone would be friends. i was so relieved when i moved to a new school because i found out that your true friends will stick with you until the end. that is what you should keep in mind when deciding whether to stay with your “friends” or not.

Hey its good you confronted her and stuff. She dosen’t reeally need to treat you like that. I think you should stand up to her and tell her to stop talking behind my back. You shouldn’t just put them in a old friends bin. I’ll tell you wat to do. Set up a time with your friend and tell her how you feel!! And just talk about things u guys have missed together

I think you should sit her down, and have a conversation about why she’s telling everyone your secret, and if you feel like telling her a secret, i don’t think it would be a good idea, maybe she’ll stop in a few days.

My guyfriend and I we swap secrets all the time. And if he spills one of my secrets he immediately me, then face the music. And spills one of his secets I do the same he’ll do.

This exact thing happend to me in school i told my friend why i liked my crush (and they were good reasons) and when i wasn’t there she blabbed to him and everyone else! it was really bad. but then i realized stuff happens. and its not all bad.

You should not be friends with this girl you did the right thing and told her to stop she got mad that is her problem if you really want to be her friend then give her some time she might come around in the mean time find some friedns you can trust

if that happened to me then i would definately dump her in the old friend bin immediatly i would walk up to her and be like you told another girl my secrets and i have kept yours a secret so we cant be friends no more. then i would tell the girl that hse told my secrets to that she shouldnt be her friend cause she is a backstabber and she shouldnt tell her her secrets.

Like most of the other girls said< give your pal time, confront her. Tell her exactly what you feel. Don’t feel shy!! Tell her what she is doing is wrong, and if she won’t stop,it’s time to find a new BFF!! MUCH HELP, SAMANTHA.

this girl does not sound like a nice person! i would dump her! or give her a warning! i know how you feel!

that is so totally rude!!! u should dump her but be nice about it! i’ve been through this too. i told my teacher and she worked it out with my ex-friend.or u could give that “friend”a warning!!!

hey i hadthe same problem but it was kind of differant coz i told her on valentines day that i was sending this boy i had liked for ages a card and befor he got the card she told him and about half the school . what i did was i talked to her and sed that it wasnt fair how i keep all her secrets but she goes and blabbs all mine nd then if she still dosent stop tell like your teacher or your mom ! P.S what ever you do DONT do the same thing

hope this helped Danni xx =) xx

I had the same thing happen 2 me. It sucks I know and u want 2 give her another chance but she is tottaly not worth it if she spills your secrects. Throw her in the old friend’s bucket now! If u don’t then she’ll just think that u don’t care about it and she will keep on doing it over and over. Don’t let her do that! Move on and find some good friends that u can trust with your secrects now!

-Been there done that

Well think about this, what is the definition of friend? its not something you can look up in the dictionary (well it is but thats not the point) Only we can define what a true friend is, To me its someone who is as close to me as a sister,someone that i can always trust and who is always there for me. Someone who wouldn’t bail me out of jail but would be sitting next to me saying “man we messed up.” someone where if i were to jump off a bridge they wouldn’t jump with me but would be at the bottom to catch me. Whats your definition of friend? Does She fit it?

My friend went on my msn and told someone on it that she looked weird in skinny jeans while pretending to be me. so now we aren’t friends anymore. A true friend doesn’t go out of their way to hurt you.

Try to tlk to her and tell her why she tells people.Remember:NOT ALL FRIENDS ARE WORTH A TRUST!That means we cannot trust friends because they are your friends.You can find some more trusting friends at your school.If your friend tells other people it’s not right to pay her back because she might get badder and tell more of your secrets.Like what I said:There are more trusted friends than you think there is more.

Dear DG, I think you know some people won’t understand why the girl in the question thought about staying at the two-faced friend’s side, but I can definitely relate. I was hurt by a two-face. My two-faced friend told the whole world who I liked, and it hurt my reputation seriously.

I knew immdeiatley what she was doing, but I didn’t want to sit down and talk with her. I was afraid. After what she did to me, I thought that she had all the power in the world over me. In other words, I was a chicken. And after she did that to me, she acting like she did nothing, and continued to be friendly to me, which made me wonder if she actually did it, even when I was positive.

It’s hard to let go of a trusted BFF, even when she did that horrible thing to me, because she acted nice to me, and I was afraid. It’s fear.

-Nobodie

That is absolutley not right for your ‘friend’ to share your secrets with another girl. Especialy if it is someone she claims she doesn’t like. That is totally not fair on your half. You shouln’t need to talk to your friend either. She spilled your personal info. There are so many other girls out in the world like that but lucky for you, there are nice, honest and trustworthy girls that could end up being YOUR friend!! :)

Think back if there is anything you accidentally did wrong to your friend right before you swapped secrets. If there is, apologize right away and try not to do it again. If not, ask your friend why she tells all your secrets. Would she like it if you told everyone about her crush? Or about how she still has her baby blankie? Most likely not. If the secrets are not that important, ignore it and move on. Next time, don’t invite her over for a sleepover. If you do, zip your lips!

Today at school my friend “Mary” found out that I told my friend “Jill’ about her secret. Mary said loudly to Jill that I liked a boy named “Jack”. I told her that I only liked him a little bit. I am scared to go to school tomorrow because of it. Is my friend wrong for this or is it what I deserve? (Jill is a person I can most DEFINITELY trust).

I told Friend 1 a secret about Friend 2. Friend 2 found out I told her. In a loud hallway, Friend 2 told Friend 1 i liked Boy 1. Is Friend 2 wrong for this or is it what I deserve?

i have done something simalar to that shes (trying) to tell every1 i have tried to get her to stop but it is sooo hard well now i have my solution thanks to whoever asked that

                                                           -a person

If she keeps on backstabing you make new friends.I still have a friend like this problem but than don’t tell your secrets anymore.There are 2 choices.You can dump her in the “Bad Friend” catorgory and make new friends(you don’t have to do this because my old best friend moved to a different school 2 years ago) or consult an adult.

I think that first you need to think this over. Once you’ve thought this over ask her ” Are you still my friend, cause your not acting like it”. Don’t just focus on her answer, focus on the tone in her voice. Whether it sounds Sarcastic, friendly, mean, sickly sweet. If she says no just say ” no big deal, see you around”. Cause if she doesn’t want to be your friend, your not missing out she is. Your not the bad friend, she is. You kept her secrets, you didn’t talk about her, and you were friendly even when she was not so friendly. So there are other people out there who would love to be your friend. Friends come & go, the ones you keep the longest are the ones you’ll treasure forever. One is silver & the other gold!

budding phycoloigist

Tell her how u feel. Tell her that if she doesn’t stop u might have to dump her in the “old friends” bin. Oh and i suggest u never tell her personal secrets again, it could lead to another disaster.

Good Luck!

The truth about being two faced is that everyone does it. Whether you believe it or not you do. Nobody’s Perfect! -Halle

You should talk to her and tell her how you feel let her know that you have her secrets too not that you would tell anyone but ask her how she would feel if you told anyone . p.s this has happend to me too.

hey friends fight and she’s mad because you found out that she didn’t keep her mouth zipped. put yourself in her situation…shes only talking bad about you because she is disappointed in herself and shes taking it out on you. talk to her about it and make up already!

if you don’t want to be friends with her any more than just tell her. if you want to stay friends with her tlk to her again, or just don’t tell her anymore secrets!

I would cause i wouldnt wand a two faced gal as my friend if i kept my lips seald about her SECRETS SO (SHE) SHOULD RETURN THE FAVOR!