I think you should sit down with your mom alone, and tell her calmly how you feel about this. Like “Mom I’m tired of you comparing me to my friends, it makes me feel like you like them better than me. Please stop.” Or something like that. You can do it, girl!

Although your mom is most likely trying to encourage you , that may not be the best way. You should tell her how you feel I know when my mom does things like this and I speak to her about it she appoligizes. Even though the things she says does hurt your feelings like “why can’t you be more organized like May.” or “Why can’t you be athletic like Sarah.” you could maybe become more organized ,but onley if you need to. And also you don’t have to change the way you are if you think those things about you are okay.

I totally know how you feel, my mom used to compare me to my friends. Then one day I told her that I didn’t like the way she compared me because it felt like she wanted my friend as a daughter instead. My mom understood how I felt and she stopped. Just tell your mom how you really do feel.

Say, “Mom, would you have preferred May/Sarah to me? Did you want them instead of me?”

Tell her how you feel. Say, “Mom. May/Sarah have their own problems. They’re imperfect. I wish you would please stop comparing me! Nobody’s perfect. Love me for who I am.”

And TRY to live up to your mom’s expectations!!!

You should let your mom know that her comparing you to other girls is really hurting your feelings. Not all girls are perfect but she wants you to be the best you can be, even if it means changing yourself. But don’t let her take control. Let her know how you feel and if she loves you, she should understand. Basically let her know your feelings. You may not see her change, but give it time and she will learn to respect you!

The same same happened me last night, I was sooo scared to ask her to stop comparing me. Bad idea, I got grounded for telling her what to do, and now she’s mad at me. Your mother might be more understanding, but just watch out.

<3 Madelyn

Your mom probably does realize good things about you, she just never points them out. Maybe your mom just wants you to do the things that other girls do because she thinks they’re great girls, and she wants you to be a great girl, too. What I would do is just talk about it with her. It’s probably the best and only thing you could do.

Imperfect, you really shouldn’t let your mom get away with this. Tell her ” Mom, cold you please stop comparing me could you just like for me and for who I am?” If that doesn’t help then one day do something nice for her like make her breakfast in bed. She’ll really appreciate it!

You’re situation is worse, but i’m going through the same thing. My best friend, taylor, is like my sister. We hang out 24/7. Taylor and her mom, Cindy, have a very tight relationship. My mom and i do to, but she always says,” Why can’t we be close like Taylor and Cindy are?” i always cry when we have that conversation. I can’t change our relationship by myself, i can’t drive. You should have a conversation with your mom and tell her what you’re thinking. you need to speak your mind. It’s not your fault it’s her’s. Be nice, but speak your mind. Good luck!!!!

Sit down with your Mom and (CALMLY!) tell her how bad it makes you feel when she compares you to your friends. Make sure you are respectful and listen to what she has to say… trust me, I know from experience that those two things make a world of difference. And is there one thing in particular that she complains about a lot? Try to work on improving it. If you handle arguments this way, then your parents will respect your opinion and take you seriously when you don’t think something’s fair.

sit down and tell your mom how you feel. she may change but it may not be right away. stay the way you are and don’t try to be like your friends for your mom

talk to your mom and tell her how you feel when she compares you to other girls.

Tell your mom you’re happy to be who you are. She should understand how you dont mind being different and like yourself just the way you are. Besides the world would be boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ring if we were all the same hope she understands

i know how you feel……………………………..

your mom might not know how she is making you feel! s!omtime i feel that way after a soccer game! I did really good but then my dad will say ” you lost the balls so many times” You need to tell your mom that you feel like she is comparing you to other girls! Tell her you feel like you arn’t as good as them to your mom. If yiu can’t do that every day or so ask her what you have been doing very well laely. Also you can tidy up every once and a while maby that will help.

My mom always does that. she always goes “Why can’t you put your hair up like the girls in your school or why can’t you dress like them” i tell her i don’t want to be like them at all. i said im fine just brushing and putting my hair up in a ponytail everyday. im fine with dressing in jeans and a t-shirt and not hollister and abercrombie stuff. but no matter what she never likes how i am.

I agree that that you should tell your mom how you feel. You’re mom is supposed to be close to you as your best friend. Maybe, if you act with a calm tone, you can have a better cance of working things out.

I totally understand how you feel. I’d feel the same way. You should talk to your mom about how you feel. Letting her know that you have good qualities and would like to be appreciated by them, not compared to your friends. No one wants to feel like their parent love someone else more than you!

I think it is unfair that your mom thinks you should be more like your friends. I think it would be a waste because no one can be exeactly like another person no matter how hard you try. I would keep being like yourself (even if it is not what your mom wants)

Hope it helps~ Miranda

Just tell her how you feel. I know it may be a little hard but at least you will not have that problem. Dont worry it will be fine! -Alli 11,Arizona.

I don’t think you should be mad at your mom, I think she is just trying to encourage you, not tell you to do things a different way. I also think you should talk to your mom, if it’s really bothering you, you should talk to her about it…she will understand! Good Luck.ox;;

hey, i understand how you feel, my mom does that with me, too.

It gets really frustrating sometimes. usually what i’d do is that i’d write my feelings down in my journal, and i just try to relax a bit.

pretty soon, i remember that my mom loves me, even if she hurt my feelings, she probably didnt mean to, snd an hour later i’d forget about it

so my advice is just relax and try to talk about your feelings, either with a friend, or write it down, or anything that you think might help you

Is your mom right? Are you really not oragnized? Be truthfull if you really are throwing papers in your backpack, getting to school with your homework ripped in half then maybe she’s trying to tell you your not oragnized and trying to give you a roll model, see she’s probably trying to make you WANT to be organized.

Your mom is just trying to boost you to your best…Maybe you think that she likes your friends bettter than you but she doesn’t She loves you but there are some areas you could do better in that your friends do well in…Just think about it from your moms view She just wants what’s best for you and who knows? Maybe if you take the ADVICE she is giving you and then she’ll stop.

Your mom probably wants you to be the best you can be b/c she loves you. Try to see her point of view. And calmly tell her how you feel. Say, “Mom, I know you care about me and want me to have some of the positive qualities my friends do, but I still want to be me. It hurts my feelings when you compare me like that. Everyone has their good and bad things about them, and I’ll try and improve my bad ones. But I’d apprieciate it if you loved me as me.” something like that. just let her know that you understand that she wants you to be the best you can be and that you want her to accept you for who you are.

—-Emy

i think that you and your mom should find a time to talk to her about the way that you feel. me and my mom do it all the time, and it helps alot and it works! be tough you’ll get throu!

i think you should tell your mom that nobody’s perfect, and the you need to be yourself, not your friends, or anybody else

my mom is always comparing me to other people i told her how i felt and it helped!! try it!!!

Darling, I have been through the same thing. She of course doesn’t like your friends more than you! Everybody in the world is different. Like finger prints. Nobody is alike. You are creative in your own way. You just haven’t found it. Try taking swimming lessons, drawing class, or just participate in community activities. Try to participate in as many things as you can. Try out for the basketball team! If you don’t like that, give pottery a try. Play an instrument! The more you do this, the more you will see your own talent, and your mom will be braging to her girlfriends what a wonderful person you are!

I think you should tell your mom how you feel and how its uncomfortable and it hurts your feelings if you just talk with her she might listen.Say why do you always say things about Sarah or May what about me what about the things I can do? Do you want Sarah or May as a daughter or me?

Hey how about doing some of thouse things and then go back to your normal ways and show her how you can do thouse things then she’ll be happy with who you are!

Dear Imperfect, O.k my mom compares me to my sister and a whole other bunch of girls. (Including herself !) I felt bad inside so I told her please stop comparing me it feels like you rather have those girls as daughters.So the next day she stopped and said sorry from then on she stopped comparring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG!!!!! THAT TOTALLY HAPPENS TO ME IT IS LIKE WE ARE TWINS!!!! My MOM campares me to my BEST freinds all the time and it makes me want to yell at her, or Yell at my friend for being so perfect but hold it in and have a quite talk!!!

You’re not alone my mom always tells me the same things!!!Why can’t you read more like Issa!!!or why can’t you be more like your friends?Sometimes it hurts when she says that!!! But now she stopped because I told her how I felt!!Now she just give compliments!!Which is much better than comparison!!

Your mom is just trying to get you active and stuff. I don’t think she cares more about your friends than u. I think she is just trying to get you into stuff I hope everything is fantabulous!!

What I would do is tell her, I know you want me to be like other kids but I would like it if you were happy for who I am. Just try and tell her that you are NOT the other girls, YOU ARE YOU!

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