Dad's Sport
Dear Ali,
For my vacation next year, I have to go to a golf clinic in Australia. We play every day for four weeks. It’s not really a vacation for me. I’m good at golf, but I don’t have a passion for it. My dad has been forcing me to play since I was three. One day, he asked me what activity my heart is in. I was too afraid to let him down because he loves it so much. Golf clinics like the one I’m going to cost a lot of money. I’m 11 and I’ve kept this secret to myself for so long. How can I say no?
–SECRET KEEPER
Oh, wow—what a tough situation! No wonder you’re nervous about telling your dad how you feel; obviously, this means a great deal to him. However, you really do need to tell him the truth, since it’s not fair to either of you to go on like this. If it’s easier, try talking to your mom or another adult you trust first. And look at it this way: Your dad did ask you where your heart lies, which means he understands that you may not love the game as much as he does. It’s also possible that you just need a break. You might have a lot more enthusiasm for golf after some time away from it, especially if you don’t feel like you’re being forced to play.
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If your dad really loves you, He’d understand that you don’t like to golf. Secrets like this aren’t good to be kept by one’s self. Try to talk to him, and maybe tell him that your getting tired of Golfing. Then suggest a different way you and your dad can hang out. Because your dad might love your company like my dad does. Sometimes my dad and I would go and get an Icecream somewhere, or have Italian food at a restaurant. And Ask Ali Is right about what to do, So I’d probably listen to her advice before mine. -Faery Queen <3 <3
I know how you feel!
Same thing happened here! My dad loved it when I played sports, one problem is I HATE sports! I love shopping, reading, and walking…but not sports or running. Running is what my parents love to do. My mom gets up every morning at 4:00 to run 12-16 miles! My dad runs a little less and at night, but overall they’re favorite relaxing thingy is running/exersize. I used to play soccer… I really didn’t like it but I did it for my dad. To tell you the truth I was terrified of the ball! So I did it for FIVE years to make my dad happy. I regret it. He toatally understood when I told him that soccer wasn’t my thing and I’d rather do other things. So even though I quit soccer my dad now asks me if I want to run with him…uhh like no way I can hardley stand the one mile run at my at school! So if I were you I would tell your dad the truth! Good Luck!
Me too
My parents think I really like dance, but I really don’t. I practice as hard as anyone else I, but I am still the worst. I am still dancing today.
Cut Back
that’s really great that you still dance, but try to cut back a little. It’s not healthy to do something you don’t enjoy a lot. After a while you’ll enjoy it more!
SHEA!!!:@
Your right, you should NEVER get to much of what u don’t like -Sk8r
Try to tell him
I know it’s hard to tell your dad you don’t like golfing but he’s your dad, he will understand. Ask him if you can do another activity and still do a little bit of golfing. Trust me, he will understand!
Peace out
Tell Them The Truth
if you dohnt like to dance tell your parents the truth i know it is surely gonna be hard but you need to do it you can make yourself really sick ive done it believe me i kknow its gonna be hard but just try it ok
Try to explain
Don’t keep trying something you don’t like. Tell your parents nicely about it. Tell them your not getting into dance that much. Tell them you’d rather be doing something else. Make sure you don’t get hard on them. Maybe if your nice they’ll except it and sign you up for something you do enjoy!
ok
i don’t think that is going to work
tell them its not ur thing
tell them that you like soccer or vollyball or something you like and tell them dance was fun but you like the sport you have chosen alot more!-Minni
speak up
you go girl
Ask Allie might be right for you too
I think that you should take Allie’s advice. Maybe not the same way but I hope that you know what I mean! Find something that you are good at and then maybe sometime ask your parents about it. Try something else!
Just tell them
Just tell your parents that u dont want to dance anymore they will understand and sooner or later they will get over it and then they will probably find something else for you to do and hopefully u will like that and not have to go through that situation all over again so good luck with ur dance problem!!!!
Golf Girl Gotta Go!
Even though i love golf i think you should tell your dad! Why would he be mad at you for telling him how you really feel! My dad knows i love golf but if i didn’t i’d tell my daddy! You should too! Golf is my passion! But you are a GOLF GIRL GOTTA GO! SO tell your dad calm, carefully, and nicely! Tell him every once in a while is cool but not for a vacation or four days straight. Just be cool about it! Trust me! I am afraid to tell anybody anything! Even sometimes my BFFs. ANd my Parents. But still listen to my advice not my life at home! Trust me! I won’t even tell my Crush i like him when he might even like me! BUt read and take in my advice because you’ll be glad when you get it all out! And so will your dad! Your dad probably already knows because our dads have eyes and ears everywhere. They know everything and especially what is best for you! TTYL or tell you advice later!
Cheerleader15
speak up!
My mom and dad are pretty forceful. When I was 5, I watched dancers on t.v., and wanted to be like them. My mom and dad wanted me to be a good basketball player. However they did enroll me in dance. My heart was in it. I danced for 5 years, and I became really good. The costumes and makeup cost too much though, and I had to go to big competitions in Vegas so the flight tickets cost a lot too. My parents then removed me from dance becuse it was very expensive, which made me really disappointed. I was put in basketball training with a really good camp club. After one year of training I was on the school girls basketball team and then in the summer went to a really good summer basketball camp where they trained you to be a pro. Although I became a good player, I didn’t like it at all since my heart wasn’t in it. I didn’t tell my parents since I hated to disappoint them. I didn’t speak up until last month. I told my mother first and then my dad. They were disappointed, but said that they would only do whatever my heart desired. I then got to go back to dance and we took specia plans so everything worked out. The lesson I learned is that ur parents will support you through everything and will only lead you where you’re heart’s destination is, so you should always speak up!
-kellie
dancing 2 hard!
You dont have to dance 24/7. Tell your parents you dont like to dance so much and maybe things will get better!
Just tell 'um
Just tell ur mom & dad! I did in 3rd grade and they totally understood. But make a wise desion. I am sorta upset that i quit! It has been a few years and my dance moves need “sharpened!”
Dance
My dance teacher says that I am the best in the class. My mom says the same. I don’t like dance very much and I don’t know how to tell them I don’t want to do dance again next year. I don’t know what to do.
Dance (reply)
You should just let them off easy. If your teacher is a good one, she will respect your wishes. Your mother will always love you no matter what your decsions are!
Same situation here!
My dad always wants me to play Tennis! It drives me nuts! He always enters me in matches agianst other people! I hate it! He said he dremaed of me being his little us open star!
find something you both like
tell your dad that its just not your thing and try and find an activity that you both like for an example rock climbing soccer or hockey for an example my dad tryed to get it to football but ti wasent my thing so i told him and he said it was fine and if i was intrested in doing rock climbing and now every tuesday and saterday we go rock climbing so that was a tuff sitoution but if you tell him he will toadle undersad and you guys will have to find someing in commen!!-Tinkerbella
tough situation!
if u wont enjoy the clinic, then your family is basically throwing their money away, so u’ll do both ur family and urself a favour if u talk to ur dad. one thing that u could do is tell ur mom how u feel, and then she can tell ur dad. then once he has heard the news, u can come to him and apologize and tell him u r thankful for everything he’s doing. that way, u wont have to tell him that u dont like golf, but u DO have to let him know how much u appreciate the money and time he is willing to give u. hope that helps!!
ps. my mom got me a rly bad gift for xmas, and i found out! i started telling her i didnt want one, and then she told me she had already gotten one and was going to return it. i feel so bad even tho i HATE that gift! what should i do?
Okay....
I think that you are right if the parents understand that they dont like something that you do with them they should just tell them and hopefully they will understand and that they will forgive you for just wanting to do something else other than things that you dont want to do because really nobody wants to keep doing things that they dont like to do even i dont
Uhhhhhhhh
I know i totally get it. My dad is sooooo obsessed with sports. He gave up on me so now he only pays attention to my older bro. He spends hours down there pulling weights with him. He never paid attention to me. Finally when he yelled @ me that I didn’t tell my older bro that the other team was planning a flea floater or something. Then my mom yelled at him. He tried to get me involved with sports. Finally I found soccer and swimming. While he got me into sports i got him into theater. Now he watches every play our theater puts on
don't wory
your dad just wants to spent time with you so don’t be worryed . o.k.
talk u have a mouth now use it
ur dad wont like u keepin secrets so politely tell him but bring up a suggestion of something u could do that u both enjoy. so yeah tell him. he luv ya, he has to understand. don’t be scared be confident hannnah montanahs BIGGEST fan xoxo
Well....
If your dad loves you he shouldn’t have a problem with you not liking golf. He maybe disappointed at 1st but he’ll eventually understand.
just tell him...
Even though it’s really tough, you have to tell him. If he knew that you didn’t like it, he’ll probably want to stop spending so much money on it and let you do whatever your heart’s desire. Good luck!!
M <3
Dads
I know exactly what you’re going through my dad always pushed me into stuff, but finally I told him I want to do things I like and now I don’t feel force to do anything because he always asks if my heart is into it. : )
Good luck with your dad!
Good job
I am glad that you told your dad! Great Advice too! I bet that she will try to do what you did!
bascetball
I’ve always loved dance(so i thought) but last year i found something else i loved. my mom was the one who really loved dance. i told her how i felt and she was sad but she told me i have her support.
Me Too
I quit dancing in the 2nd grade becuase I thought it was boring. My parents changed the day from Tuesday to Friday and I got in a hissy fit. Tehn finally my parents said I could quit. I WAS SOOOO HAPPY! The other reason I wanted to quit was because I was with teenagers.
Beks (this is a fake name.)
Tell The Truth
I know its hard to tell the truth to ur dad. But still try to talk to him about golf. Sit ur dad down and tell him how u feel!
Meggie here for all girls
dads sport
Sometimes you need to tell them. Don’t let him waist his money . Tell your dad you realy need to talk and tell him you don’t have a passion for golf. I know how you feel but this is a little worst. My grandmother makes me play piano. I hate it but I have been playing since age 4. The only time I told her she was sad me. She was sad but not entirely. She was happy I old her and gave me lessons in cooking something I realy loved.
Don't Be Afraid to Spill Your Guts!!!
Tell your dad. Even if it hurts you don’t want your dad to spend a lot of money on something you don’t like. The piont is be yourself around him, express your feelings and tell the truth!
I had the same thing
Well my dad said if i wanted to play basketball well not excaly ask but kindva and I felt forced into it. I mean next week are basketball tryouts I’m not going out my dad dosen’t even know about it but my mom does because my cousin going out. It seems like everyone wants me to do it. Even tough I’m tall I’m not good at it and it just isn’t my sport. I have passion for soccer! But my parents know now that so it might seem hard but just tell him
*sigh* Dads
dads just dont understand sometimes do they? they can sometimes freak out that you got a D or that your room is a little dirty, but thats dads. and if they really love you then they would understand that you dont really have the passion for the things that they like. if you dont feel comfortable talking to your dad about it, talk to your mom and see if they can tell them. i do that whenever my step dads daughter is being mean to me.
dad
u should tell u’r dad i am open with my dad if i do not want to do something tell him it is the RIGHT THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YAAA
Your sooo right if i dont want to do something i would tell him not keep it back!!!!!!!!
Dad's Sport
Your dad will totally be OK with that! He loves you and he won’t care if you don’t love golf like he does. So talk to your mom first, it may help, then talk to your dad. ~Best Wishes, A Friend
you need to tell him
Tell your dad you don’t enjoy playing golf anymore. He loves you and doesn’t care what you do!
lex
forced to golf
I kinda know how you feel Except my grandpa didn’t froce me but he liked me to. I took golf lessons every summer and found other girls who like it. I now love golf. So just give lessons a try and you might find some new friends.
you and your dad
you tell your dad no matter how it hurts you have to our he will all ways think your going to go golfing with him like my dad he wanted me to be a model but one day when i said dad i hate modeling and he said i now i hate it to and i said you do and he said yes because he i have such a good daughter that can tell me any thing so dont be sad to not tell him ok bye.love skye. ps i just wanted to tell you that you cant be sad do what you have to do you go girl.
girl stuff
my dad saw a razor in the my bathroom and he said you better not be shaving.but my mom said i could and i am but i guess my dad just doesnt want me to grow up yet but i cant stop me from growing up its not my desition.i just dont know why dads dont want to let go of there little girls,
Not Girl Stuff!
But I don’t think it’s really your Dad’s fault. It may be he likes to golf so much that he’s always wanted his little girl to be in to it too. It sounds to me like you’re not trying hard enough to get in to the sport, it may just be you’re not being a good sport, no offense, but try harder. Just to say: don’t let your Dad down because you think it’s “girl stuff”.
I understand how you feel!!!!!
I know what you feel like!! My dad thought I was great at basketball when he saw me and my BFF and my brother shooting hoops at the park so he started teaching me how to play and when I told him about basket ball try outs he started teaching me a lot more finaly he askede me if I was going to try out he assumed I was, I told him no, he was soo shocked he asked me why and I told him i just like messing around and playing Basketball with my friends at the park he hadnt relized I didnt want to play Basketball, so he told me I should have told him he understood so well i was really happy, so you should just tell your dad before your vacation “Dad, I know how much you love golf and I like playing it too, but the golf clinic you want to take me to is expensive and I don’t like golf as much as you I do like - though so maybe I could give golf a break because its not really my sport.” The - you could fill in with a sport/activity you do like or want to try out I promise you that your Dad will understand!! Try it! Then you can do the things you enjoy not just what your Dad likes.
your problem
just tell him very slowly and kinda quit daddy golfing isnt my favorite sport ill still play it with you every ones in a while but im in to more stuff then tell him what stuff you in to and hill understand thats what i did with my daddy he likes soccer me not so much so try it if you trust my advice Cullen
Tell Him..
Tell hom how u feel, he will probably understadnd its just thats what he likes to do, and he wants u 2 enjoy it 2!! tell him we cant still golf for fun just not at golf clinics!! He loves you so dont worry about it, he might be hurt at first, but after awhile he will get it that you like to do other things.
Same Here
I fell that way sometimes too. I know how it feels.
Me too
Three years ago i didn’t know what to do. I was diceding about basketball or dance. My Grandma told me i would be a good b-ball player and a dancer. She kept telling me her opinion but i went with dance. I don’t know what i would do without dance know, i love it!
—dancer—
I think you made the right
I think you made the right choice. I do dance to and I love it!!
dance
i do competition dancing at a very professional dance studio. im realllllly serious about dancing.
He WILL understand
I am sure he will understand. I had a friend that had the same problem. Except that was about Ping Pong. It’s a long story, anyways, he WILL understand.
WOW
Hey yall just want to let all you know that telling the truth is better so just do it you’re wasting your life on something thats not a big deal!!!
Golf! Golf! Golf!
If you really don’t like it, tell him when the time is right. NOT IN THE MIDDLE OF PLAYING GOLF! Ask to go out to eat at your favorite resturant and tell him calmly and maturely. He’ll understand since he is your dad and he loves you. If he asks why, just tell him. It’ll be easier than not telling him at all.
Dad and your golf problem
My dad watches football games all the time and never stops and it really got annoying! When I got used to it, I really liked it . Give your dad a chance and have fun. And just tell him what you like. He might agree or disagree with you, but that’s ok . You’re both different people. -from kathy
just tell
Just tell him how you feel. He will understand cause he loves you and he wants whats better for you and him to get along!
Try to be nice about it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Try to enjoy what you have it can be fun if you think about it another way. come on you could possably like if you give it a chance your dad will be happy for you belive me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is okaayy
Dear Secret Keeper, If your dad really wants you to go, he obviously loves you. Since he loves you, trust him not to get angry when you tell him, if you do tell him. But I think you should tell him. If you don’t tell him, it could get worse and worse as you keep lying. But if you really can’t tell him with out breaking his heart, maybe you can get used to playing, but not as much as you like. Ask him if you can do dance, or singing, or what ever you love to do.
♥ Katie ♥
I Know How You Feel!!!
I no how u feel!!! My Dad is in love with hockey and he asked me i wanted to play it. I said sure try somthing new. I CAN’T SKATE!!!!! I passed out from over working and got sick!!!! so don’t do somthing if you don’t like it!!!!!!
LINDSAY!!!!!
JUST TELL HIM! he will
JUST TELL HIM! he will uderstand just tell him the way you feel and he will probly be upset for a litte bit but the he will understand
_____from a girl who understand
STICKY SITUATION
THAT’S A TOUGH SITUATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Express yourself!!!
Tell your dad (nicely) that you like golf, but also wants to be able to play other sports, but will still go to golf clinics with him sometimes. As long as he doesn’t get mad, it’s all good.
Its oKAY
Sometimes Dads can get like that. Its not because they don’t want you to have fun or anything like that its because they want you to be like them and walk in their footsteps because they love you. But you have to let them know that you are your own person and if you don’t want to go to Golf program just tell him. Say you just want to play for fun. Because if you don’t you’ll spend your whole life doing something you don’t want too. He won’t get mad because he loves you and respects you. And tell your dad you don’t like being forced to do something you don’t like. Don’t say it liike your angry just say it I promise He’ll understand. Everygirl comes a cross something like this. The best thing to do is to just say what you feel and let him know you just like doing it for fun. Hope I helped.
Advice Princess
Dad loves you
If you tell your dad he will understand. When he was a boy the same thing might of happened, so just tell him the truth and he will understand. Dad’s are great so go tell him!
tell you're dad!
You should tell you’re dad how you realy feel .It dosen’t matter if you or he gets upset just tell him how you feel and hope he understands.
DADS SPORT
wow! Thats a lot like me when my grandma made clothes for me that i didnt even like! But eventually, i learned to tell her the truth, and that worked the best. The truth works every time:) !!!!!!!!!!! P<3
Be in your own favourite planet!
i know what you mean! You can sometime’s be carried away into a totally different planet with your dad that you don’t want to go… …but it’s yor job to be in the planet you want to be! Please, tell your dad about it: It’ll make you happier and give him a piece of your life! So don’t just stand there aggreeing to everyword your dad says, be confident enough to tell him how you feel, even if it hurts him a little bit!
dad's sport
You can tell him! Just say “Dad, I know you want me to play golf, but it just isn’t really my thing. I just don’t know if I really like it that much.” I’m sure that he will understand. Just make it a point that you just don’t think that it’s your sport.
Two Words: Tough Love
Wow. That’s a really hard situation. Here’s what I think. You should take you dad aside one day, and tell him that you think golf is great, but it’s just not for you. Tell him that you really love spending time with him, just, you’d like to do it a different way. He’s your dad. He’ll understand. He’s Daddy, remember? He may be a bit disappointed, but he wants what’s best for you, so he won’t force you to do something you don’t want to.
~Courtney =^..^=