Hey :) everyone makes new friends. Don’t just let go of a pretty cool guy. Sometimes boys just be cool around their friends to impress them. Its his fault that he’s letting go of you. Say to him- One day you will figure it all out and then come to say sorry.- But for now this is your loss not mine.

Boys are trouble they could your best friend and the next day your best enemy. Dont let that bring you down!! my BFF is actually guy sure we may get too a few fights but we make up a day later. And I dont get jealous of his other friends because I know we’ll be friends till the end. Hope you work out things with your guyfriend.

Sounds like he’s just striving to be cool so much he’s willing to do anything including hurt a good friend.I bet all of this is a fake shell as soon as he realizes that they are not his real friends he’s going to come back and be so dissapointed that he lost a friend.But somethimes people just drift away as they get older but even if you guys do do drift apart you will always make friends.

Hey, that sucks. I’m pretty sure it’s just a stage. I have a guy who’s been my friend 4ever! Then suddenly he turned into ‘cool’ dude. He’d be ‘chillin’, ur friend will get over it soon enough, but it may take a few monthes so be patient and DO NOT TURN ON HIM! Always be there, STAGE.

wow, ditching you for the popular guys. its obvious hes trying to be cool. just let him no u still want to be friends and, like ali said, let him no youll be there if he changes his mind and that u should find some of your own friends. but, still, telling u your a nerd?? Um, excuse me!! not gonna b talked to that way. if you still feel hurt by the comment, express your feelings politely along with what ali said. it should work

~saima, age 12, new jersey

friends come and go. my bff since 1st grade started 2 hang out w/ other kids. its hard to accept that we’re not friends anymore, but i found and made some more GREAT friends!!!

i feel so bad for you. i also understand how you feel. one time one of my friends ditch me for the popular crowd too. :’(

Try and just put this behind you and find a new friend. It is hard to get over this stuff, just remember that on the inside, he might still think your pretty cool!

{:Chelsea:}

If he thinks those jocks are his real friends, whatever! If he can’t go for a kind girl like you and goes for kids who don’t even remotley like him, that’s his prob! Let him be! Or, like you said, if he means so much to you, sit down and talk with him. It always helps to let things out! Remember this advice, that’s what I do with my little friend probs.

Erin

seems like you should really stop being friends with this guy if he was really your friend he wouldn’ve called you a nerd what you should do is be as nice as you can and ignore him if he calls you a name. Friends are people who stand by your side and he is not being a very good friend.

Okay, if I were in your shoes, here’s what I would do:

Confront your friend (again) and tell him how you feel. Rejected? Well that’s his loss. If he gets rejected by the popular crowd he’s going to come crawling back to you. I would say ” I’m sorry. I thought I was too much of a nerd for you ” I know it sounds like using attitude but, it’ll get to him. If he dosn’t want to lose you, he’ll appoligize. If not. His loss! That’s the bad thing about being friends with guys. They have the emmotional rate of a teaspoon (hermione said that in the 5th movie of Harry Potter!)

If this boy treats you like this, he might not be the greatest friend after all. But if you are really sure you want to keep being friends with him, try to talk to him when he’s alone, not with his friends. Tell him how you feel and how you hope you can still be friends with him. If that doesn’t work, then try to be friends with other boys that aren’t rude or mean. Don’t diss your old friend behind his back, still be nice to him, but don’t dwell on losing him forever. Maybe he will decide he misses you too and wants to come back. Keep your mind open.

Have you tried asking him why he joined these people? If he says something like, “Because you’re a girl, and these guys are cool!” don’t say this back to him, “You’ll be sorry!” You should say something like, “Ok, people do change. But always know I’m there if you need me.” Maybe time will pass and he’ll realize the grass isn’t always greener on the other side! Hopefully you can be friends again! Believe me, this WILL work!

&Well thats his prob. if he wants to choose them over you to bad hes not worth it but still dont give up on him completley make new friends and talk to him or drop lots or big hints.

maybe he’ll come back and if not dont let it ruin your life

$heridan

hey girl i know what your going through i once had a boy/friend like that. what i found to most helpfull is to ignore him. dont talk to him, dont look at him. And in time he’ll mis his friend esplcally when he finds out the cool guys dont really like him.

Hope it works out!

That is really bad. I hope the advice from Ali really works out for you! Good luck!

Maybe your friend doesn’t understand what your trying to say.This is just a learning experiance dont get to sad or worried or mad,just let your friend hang out with those people and you can get some other friends just leave him alone for alittle while,i know it might be hard but its worth it,but you can still talk to him but not as much just say hi now and then,and try to keep your mind off him.Now im not saying kick him out your life im just saying take a break.

obviously this guy is trying to be “cool” and trying to be with the “cool” kids.he isnt cool for ditching a friend!nobody is cool.everybody is popular in there own way.and dont worry,thats his loss he wants to be with people that dont even like him.dont worry,he may come back to you and might even realize they dont like him.just remember to hang on.

i think you should tell him how you feal tell him how he is being a jerk that you are not a nerd tell him that you know who you are maybe he should look at who he has become

I know what you are going through! My ex-guyfriend Jake became a jerk when he got popular! And now he likes my ‘frenemy’ Sarah! It really stinks!

If he’s like that then he’s not truly your friend. True friends don’t call you a nerd. If you still want to be friends you should talk to him and tell him calmly that he hurt your feelings. If he apoligizes then that’s great but if not walk away.

Kayla Ont., Canada

I am defanitly a nerd, but i don’t find anything wrong with it. I’m even friends with some of the popular people, because I’m a nerd. Sometimes “nerd” means “cool”. I think it’s quite offensive that people are labeling “Nerd” as “uncool”. Me and all of my friends are nerds, so I don’t see how there is anything wrong with being labeled as smart and hardworking in school. Is there anyone out there who agrees with me?

It’s his mistake for acting this way, all he’s trying to do is act like them to fit in. Just have a talk with him and see what’s going on. If he’s not telling you still let him do what ever he wants untill he realizes what he’s doing to himslef. If he’s still acting this way talk to a parent or a teacher that you think will help.

Last year I had this great guy friend.We were able to tell each other stuff that we would never tell other friends.We talked all the time.We were in a special class for really smart people and there were only 6 people in our class, so everyone had someone they hung out with and me and him were always friends.He got my witty jokes that my other friends didn’t and I got his.We liked all the same music, we had a lot in common.I even encouraged him to be in the school talent show and sing and he won 1ST place.But, this year he won’t talk to me and hangs out with all his popular guy friends.I just don’t understand why we can`t be friends. -CONFUSED

Maybe your Friend wanted to hang with some boys instead of a girl for a change. But Still If He wanted to do that, He Shoulda Told Ya First! I’d probably let him hang out with the other guys. Just get to know new ppl. You won’t be so lonely.

i no wut u mean my guy friend nd i only talk online. and its kinda my fault cause i’m really shy to talk 2 him nd when he does i just look down but galy if ur guys gonna be like all mean wuts the point of havein him as a friend :-^

Well,if he wants to stop hanging out with you thats his loss! And sometimes people just try to act cool to impress people, everyone does it!

Jordan

Hey, don’t let that guy get on your nerves. If he doesn’t know the difference between good friends and bad friends then he’s not worth your time. He sounds like the REAL nerd for ditching you. I actually had the same problems with some of my friends.

That reminds me of my friend. Even though she’s not a guy, she started hanging out with the “cool” kids—who don’t even like her!

I almost cried when i read that! 1st of all your BFF doesn’t deserve you. People sometimes change and there’s nothing you can do about it. Maybe it’s time to move on. There is no way you can get him to be nice once more, but all you can do is do your best to show him you care about him and to still be nice to him. If you do that, he may realize what a jerk he’s turned into and come back to you. :-)

Hope everything works out!

;-D

You don’t need him no more ! Infact he needs you more then you need him! If he feels hurt by them you should say: “I thought you didn’t need me anymore.” Then walk away. He thinks if he has more friends he can get rid of his old buds. That proves he’s just a soar loser. But have to have confidence in yourself. You should know that YOU ROCK! Every girl should actually! OO U

I’m sure you are a great person. & SO NOT a nerd!!! It sounds like he’s the nerd! DON’T TRY TO REASON WITH HIM!!! When he realizes he’s wrong he will REALLY SAY SORRY. It’s your choice if you want to forgive him.

Have a nice day 0:-)

Well… here is the story ive known this one guy since i was born. Since hes being hanging out with these other people hes been acting very snotty with me hes always swearing around me, and his swearing is like contagouis now im swearing! I feel really bad about it. I just really want him back!

                    -Rebecca

although u might b his friends HES NOT WORTH IT!!!!! dont waist your tears over him. be bold walk up to him and tell him ho w u feel walk and tell yourself “i did what i could, if he cant acceot that its his problem” u deserve way more out of a friend. His social mistakes r HIS problem, u warned him he didnt listen and so HE is the one thats going to get hurt not u!!!!!!! its awsome that u care that much about a good friend though!!! keep on roking it out!!!!!!!!!

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U dont have 2 put with him. Tell him sraight up that .That your hurt and u dont want to be friends if hes going 2 treat u like this (do it when hes alone).It sound a little mean but it will got 2 he. Who know maybe he’ll come 2 his senses.

Meggie here 4 all girls

It’s his loss on a great friend! Forget him for now, and make other friends. But be willing to still take him back when his “Friends” back fire on him. Then he’ll realize that he made a stupid move and he’ll forgive you. Now I’m not promising that this will happen, but if it does forgive him and forget all the awful things he said. And this kind of thing happens from when your 9-18 yrs old. Only because this is the age where Kids start exploring where they belong, and trying new things and stuff like that. So just keep that in mind and you’ll be okay. - Gypsy Girl

the way i see it when all his friends find someone cooler than him and he comes back to you he will relize you were right and he will know your an awesome friend get over him…for now,lh age 10

I know what ur goig through I’m a tomboy and i have lots of friends that are boys and lots of them turned to be jerks when we hit middle school but give it some time he’ll eventually turn back to u when all of his ‘friends’ find someone better if he doesn’t, well just try hanging out with some of the other boys ya never now who might be a good friend

Especially with boys. Sometimes they consider if girls are cool enough for their “tough” reputation. I know boys hate this but confront him and ask him whats going on when his guy friends are’nt around. He’ll be more open if he’s alone. Maybe he’s going through a tough time find ing friends. He’s got to realize the ones he has fiirst though. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

That’s so mean! In my opinion, that’s his loss. Maybe you could try talking things out with him. If that doesn’t work, than just forget about him. If he can’t see you for who you realy are, and thinks you’re just some “nerd”, he needs a bop in the head (not literaly). You’ll find a guy out there who likes you for who you are. Nerdy or not.

-Courtney :-)