What's the toughest "friendship hardship" you've been through?
What's the toughest "friendship hardship" you've been through?
Fights…all the time!
You—or your BFF—feeling jealous.
Your BFF spilled your secret.
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I would have to say...
When my friend who’s a guy said that all Private Schoolers are stuck up brats. I am Not Stuck UP!!!!!!!!!!!!! - Jesus Freak
dump
If i were you i’ d dump him and find someone new friends i glad to hear that you are religous and go to a private school for that reason but if he’s saying that You and someone other friends are suckups and no real friend treats another friend like that.So if i were you id dump him get new friends and if you have more when you were friends with him spend more time with them and hey they just might go to your school.
re: dump
I’m religous too and my friends make fun of me because I go to a private school! -Mary
prejudice
my friend thinks i’m weird for going to church, and she cracks jokes all the time. at school (i go to a french school), she’s always saying: “pourqoi etre tu toujours a eglise sur dimanches?” or “pourqoi daire tu frquenter jesus?” and its TRES PENIBLER!! i almost dont want to be her friend when she acts so prejudice
Quit
If I were you I would quit being her friend. If she’s going to make fun of you then she’s not your real friend. Find a friend that doesn’t care if you go to church that just likes you for you. Also I know it’s probably going to be hard to quit but try your best.
prejudice
I can’t believe your friend said that! If I were you I would tell my friend that I do not appreciate the way she treats me and if she keeps it up, you might not be able to stay good friends!
What's Wrong With Church!?
Your totally right you shoildn’t be her friend if she’s being so prejudice. its so wrong to be prejudice. i hate people like that!!!
The Advice Giver Is Here To Help!
So, what exactly does she say in English? Just asking.
You should quit the friendship, or talk it over. [I don’t know how some girls talk it over. I cannot do that.] If she promises not to joke around anymore, keep on going with your friendship. If she breaks that promise, then, instead of callign her and havig a big figth, just “drift away”. Hang out with other people. Do it over time, not automatically. It will help her realize how stupid the whole thing is.
-Nobodie
re-prejudice
hey your not weird! (thought i dont know you) she has a religion too, and i really DOUBT she’d enjoy her friend making jokes about it. try telling her you dont like it. hopefully it’ll work! -
Yeah!
Nobody should be judged by their religion, color, or anything! Your friend said “Why do you go to English Church?” and “Why do you believe in Jesus?” , right? That is plain wrong! Find a solution right for YOU. So what you go to an English Church? Everybody is different! Does she pick on anybody else? Maybe she is just a plain bully to EVERYONE. Its all about self confidence too. She will find you an easy target if you look small on the inside, and SCARED. Don’t look scared! Do your best to be as confident as possible, then approach her and say what’s on your mind.
Hope this helps!!
Oh, man!
Ask this friend if he wants to come over your house and calmly tell him that you are a Private Schooler and it’s not fair to be called a freak. You have to make sure he understands how you feel. Give him like 2 chances. If he blows them both, I think you should do some thinking on this friendship.
Ignore Them!
I know exactly how you’re feeling. I go to a private school to and I have a lot of friends who go to public school. Their friends are always calling me, “Stuck up,” “Rich Loser,” and all these bad things. I learn to ignore it because these kids don’t know me so I don’t let it bother me. If this kid is your friend, he’s probably just playing with you for fun. Sometimes, there are going to be people who aren’t kidding and I learn to separate myself from them. They aren’t worth being around to throw me off. If you friend isn’t kidding, just ignore him! You have a great education at a private school and I wouldn’t let something as stupid as that get to me. Ignore it and be different!
i know!!!!!!!! me 2
i know!!!!!!!! me 2
poll
One time my so called friend came to my house and went through my drawers and then she found my bras and told my friends at school that i wore a push- up bra ! she even told my teachers !
Poll
OMG! if that happened to me, i would have been so angry! you shouldnt be friends with that girl. it kind of reminds me of the time my “friend” came to my house and threw all of my bras on the floor!
Two-Faced
I wish the “Mean Girls” article came earlier, because last year, I had a new friend that was a friend with my enemy. At first, I ignored her, but then she kept saying really mean gossip about the mean girl and how she hated being friends with her. I was friends with her for about up until Christmas, when I told her who my crush was. Then she told the mean girl who told my crush’s friend who told my crush who asked my other friend if it was true and she said yes because he was pressuring her because I mean if soemone liked you wouldn’t you want to know for sure?
In other cases, I was stumped by a two-face. This year I got over it and now I’m popular and I’m friends with evert girl in the class minus this one “I’m-So-Smart” girl and the mean girl. And the boy is flirting with me!!!
It’s wierd how things can change so easily!
-Nobodie
I think...
I think that you should try being friends with the mean girl…. maybe she’ s just jealous of you!!!!
My friend told my secret
When my friend told everyone who i had a crush on it was a dissaster. i can’t tell her anything anymore
About 95% of the time me and
About 95% of the time me and my bff and i are strong as steal but every now and then she lies to me. Then she lies about lieing! Also my other frieng who i thought i could trust told my boy friend i liked him which is a lie! I don’t get it!
Talk it Out
My advice would be talk it out. There must be a reason she told everyone you like this kid. Maybe she wanted the extra attention. Maybe she wanted to be considered as “popular” by knowing everything about everyone. Who knows? What you need to do is find out why she did this. I don’t think you need to break off the friendship but if she doesn’t give you a good enough answer, you need to be careful what your saying around her so something major dosen’t get out. She can always “rephrase” what your saying. So talk it out and get some answers!
Sorry!
The friendship thing is over now, and I realized I didn’t want to be total friend with her. Now we’re back on to speaking with each other, but we never really are BFFs. -Nobodie
Disaster!
You go girl! you shouldn’t tell her anything anymore, but you should make up. It would be totally mean a lot to her i bet.
My reason for reply
I would say :
Fights… all the time!
But seriously, I’m not the person that’s starts them. My used-to-be BFF and all my other Friends… well let’s just say we got in a huge fight… me, just me, against all of them. It was hard. I thought my BFF would be on my side, but unfortunately, she wasn’t. Well, she said ” You’re always making me in your ‘bubble’ and making me avoid my other friends.” I wasn’t trying to do either of those things so I said ” I don’t know what you’re talking about, and I’m not trying to do those things.” Later on in the day she said ” Get another freind… It’s over.” Then I felt like I was going to cry, but I couldn’t …not in front of the whole class. So I didn’t say anything. I knew for me it was certainly over. We’ve had too many of these fights just like this except she never would say that it’s over, and when we had a fight it was only me and her… I would usaully win. I fighted so hard to make this friendship last longer each time, but I knew sometime later I’d lose. And I did. Now I have no friends, except for my cousin… she lives in a different state. My used-to-be BFF was my BFF since 2nd grade… now she isn’t. At recess all I do is walk around alone.
advice 4 the "sad person"
heres what 2 do .if u really want 2 continue the friendship with this girl u shold tell her how u feel.if she dosn’t lisen then try 2 make new friends .(u can refer 2 the dg article “the art of making friends”for that.) and before u know it your old friend might miss u and want 2 b bffs agin.your friend,maddie
I'll Help You Sad Person
When you’re walking all alone at recess, why don’t you play with someone, or try to find another person. Someone regular. She/he will probably have some interesting personalties. If you can’t find anyone, talk to your parents or your cousin, and maybe they’ll tell you what to do.
-Nobodie, The Question Asker and The Advice Giver
It's ok, Sad Person!
You did the right thing by ending ur friendship with that girl. She wasn’t being very nice. Now, try being outgoing to the other girls in your class. Maybe one of them will play with you at recess. Remember, it’s always ok to ask. I think that NO ONE deserves to be walking alone at recess!
sad person
Dear,sad person I don’t kno exactly what ur going thru but i did suffer from all 3 of my closet friends turning against me and saying i was bossy and other things like my one ex.friend acussed me of saying somthing about one of my friends that she’d said only one of my friends was on my side. In the end we were still friends but i was not close with the friend that lied and started the fight in the end my 3 friends moved away and that betraying friend we are’nt friends anymore but i have 2 new very,very,close. PS.don’t be afraid to make new friends and when u see ur ex bff laughing look away and as silly as this may sound to u think of her as leaving as a good thing u DON’T want bad friends So make some new GOOD friends and when she sees u laughing she may notice she missed out on a GREAT friendship
gossipers and fakes
I had a friend that talked about me behind my back and that wasnt cool at all so I confronted her 1 day and she said she didnt and her friend that sat next to me in music class told me that she called me dumb and other names and I had to switch classes since I had so much drama with her.
Yes..
My best friend gets jealous of me, and the way she deals with it hurts. She asks me to cut down on things (talents), and it feels like she’s trying to hold me back.
Aggravating!
There’s this one girl in my class who thinks she’s so smart. She acts like she owns the world, and the teachers like her because she’s polite and answers all the questions right about 99.999 percent of the time. Plus, she’s trying to get a boy that one of my best friends has been working years to get, and now the girl pushes my friend down like…..IDK!!!! It’s sooooo aggravating!
-Nobodie
IKNOW
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL THIS ONE GIRL IN MY CLASS SHE THINKS SHE IS THE MOST FAB SINGER SHE ISN’T
HELP
I Know
I know there’s this girl in my class who pretends she’s a fab singer, because I’m a better singer than she is and she knows it. Usually to get her feeling better she tells people that she hates people who sing for attention. I can’t help if I’m a fab singer—and I don’t shout it to the world. I usually don’t sing that much in front of people. She’s a horrible singer—cross a person with a cold and Britanny Spears, and you’ll get the idea. She justs pulls me down.
-Nobodie
don't put her down....
Maybe she’s jealous of your voice.And if she hates people who sing for attention, then why does she walk around bragging about her voice. SENSELESS!!!!!!
Hahahahahahaaaaa!!!!!!!
You hit the nail straight on the head, girlfriend. -Nobodie
Your BFF spilled your secret
I told my friend who I liked, and she promised to keep it a secret. She kept it secret, but she would threaten me and say that if I didn’t do what she wanted, she would tell the whole school who I liked. I never listened to her, though. She never did tell anyone, but she’s not my friend anymore
my bff
my bffs are the nicest people ever. i know them so well that i know they would never even consider saying something mean about me. k & s u rox lots
Good Decision!!!
That was a good decision to not be friends with her anymore. You should never be friends with ANYBODY that threatens you!
:*(
I’m kinda going though a hardship right now…a two years ago my bff and I split up, because we would both go to different schools. And so I’ve changed a lot, and so has she…sometimes I wonder if we still have a relationship, or if it’s just memories that’s keeping us together…I’ve considered not being friends anymore, because we are so distant nowadays, and she has plenty of friends at her school…but I wanna hold on a bit more…It’s sad…But we both agreed on meeting up at youthgroup to hangout…but she doesn’t even come anymore… I feel like we have not a whole lot in common anymore…I feel lost…-Anonymous
Me Too
I have a friend that doesn’t go to my school. We used to see each other in soccer, but the coach was so mean she quit, and I got kicked out and I played on a nicer team. Nowadays we’re only connected by computer. E-mailing isn’t the same. -Nobodie The Soccer Chick
Big Mouth Bummer
Dear DG, I have this girl in my class who has to know everything. Like, when some people are whispering or having a heart-to-heart chat, she has to be in the group, or she won’t be friends with the people in the group anymore.
I was having a heart-to-heart chat with one of my friends, and of course, that girl comes up and orders, “Tell me what you’re talking about…..” and I’m all like, “No, I’m not telling. it doesn’t matter.” [And it didn’t matter— the thing we were talking about everyone knew already.] And now she won’t talk to me anymore. She even gave me several emails saying, “PLEASE DO NOT EMAIL ME ANYMORE [name removed] THANK YOU” and, “DO’T EMAIL ME BECAUSE I WON’T EMAIL YOU BACK.” I’m totally fine with the fact that she’s ignoring me, but why does she act like she owns the world??
-Secret-Keeper [a.k.a. Nobodie]
toughest friebd hardship
The toughest would be when my best friend asked me out. I was in total shock! When I told him no, he didn’t talk to me until the end of the 5th grade!
TOUGH!
thats really hard I mean being perfectly good freinds and then having it go down the drain???
My BFF never fights with me...
NEVER TELL ANYONE WHO YOUR CRUSH IS!!! Even if it is your BFF. They tell even if they don’t mean to.
-Lani
My Frenamie
My so called “BFF” Is a brat, and not only to me but to everybody else… It stinks, but the worst part [4 her not me] is that no one likes her, and the worst part 4 me is that i cant stand up to her. I really need advise 4 this, i wish i never became friends with her cuz now it seems like she is glued to my butt or something, and she starts all the drama at my school… problem is she calls my house phone and cell phone like every second… I hate her i wish i could vanish her 4eva…She copys me so much and gets mad at me 4 copying her on one idea and that is to color my reindeers nose red like her… Help me. My mom tells me to stand up 4 myself but i just cant do it! I am sorta A VERY shy person so its so hard 4 me. Help ME! C Ya L8r PPL
♥K.L.C♥
P.S. ANY ADVISE?
Advice 4 u
1:ok invite her to a slumber party just you and her when you go to bed sit on your bed with her eat cookies or trailmix or somthing and talk it out mabey start by saying “im really sorry for copying you emily I really wish we could be friends but why are you sooo mad why does it matter so much to you wether our reindeers noses are the same color or not (do NOT start out accusing her ).” if all fails then ask her not to call you or talk to you until she can get her act together PLease take my advice but try to put yourself in her shoes when she answers you be calm and slow to acuse you to yelling at each othe rwill not helpTRUST ME
REPLY to my advice i mean advice 4 u sent on Dec. 27 2007
Thanx for the advice but the thing is i dont want to be her friend.
♥K.L.C.♥
Advice
i’ve been thru the same thing. The reason she is doing it is becuz she has no other friend and is treating you as a shield. What you should do is to try to tell her in calm way that she is making everything a big dig deal. Try to keep your frindship and introduce her to other girls so you’ll have more fun. i bet your friend will stop being a brat and will be nice and have fun. HOPE YA TRY!!!!1
I had that problem
I had that problem before.All I did was tell my other friends.They helped me a lot.Oh yeah,I’m kinda shy too.Now that i standed up for my frenimie,she stopped being mean and she’s standing up for others.=)
Help For K.L.C.
What you have to do is drift away from her. Spend more time with other people you admire. And don’t answer the phone. And when she asks you why haven’t been answering the phone, lie, and say something like, “My [family member or pet] broke the phone.”
After that, when you make new friends, be as loyal as you can, to gain confidence in other people besides your new friends. Being loyal will get you new friends, and now you are in a tight-knit circle of friendship that will go on and on and one and on and on and on and on and on. I hope!
-nobodie
Reply to Help for K.L.C. sent on Dec. 28th O7
Thanx for the awsome advise it really worked!
♥ K.L.C. ♥
My worst friend mishap was
My worst friend mishap was last year. I was in lunch and my Best Friend called me a lesbo. So, I started crying. When I got back to class my other friends told the teacher and she got the principal. The friend that called me a lesbo wouldn’t tell the principal the truth. So, I called her that night crying and told her it was over. She told my favorite teacher and my teacher made me apologize and work it out with her. Our friendship is still not the same as it used to be.
Clueless Teacher
It’s so hard when teachers make you be friends with someone you don’t feel comfortbale with. I have many clueless teachers. They make me so angry! If you don’t want to be her friend [which I imagine you would feel like] just “drift away”.
What is drifting away?
It’s when you seperate with a friend over time. You hang out with other people and don’t talk to her that often. You may think it’s hard, but some girls to it to BFFs without meaning to. It’ll be a breeze. If it isn’t blame me.
-Nobodie
Big Mouth Bummer Strikes Again, And Now It's Really Aggravating!
Help, DG! My Big mouth Bummer Frenemie has struck again, and I don’t think I can take it anymore!!!! My other friend, JW, recently broke her leg and got on crutches because Big Mouth Bummer “tripped”, and fell on JW’s foot. Big Mouth Bummer now is attached to JW like a barnacle, and never lets anyone do anything. I know that’s she’s sorry that she broke JW’s foot, but lately she’s acting mean to me. She trips me and she’s just a bully! But she really wants to be my friend. What should i do?
-Nobodie
MY BFF!
I only have one bff and we dont fight all the time probably like 4 times a YEAR! wew are thge best of friends and she is 9 and i am almoast 11 but we are the best of friends!
help!
hi. there’s a freind of mine. everytime i tell her a secret you can garentee that within 1 day the whole world will know. i’ve tried not telling her but she always squezes it out of me. i can’t hang with my other friends for like half of the recces time and there’s no one else to hang with. ok there’s one more group of people but there’s this one girl who’s really mean in that group do i don’t want to. i love my secret spilling freind but she can keep a secret. i mean, one of our other freind’s has had a secret for over a year now. help.
from: hannahmontanafan
Does She Realize What She's Doing?
Does she actually realize what she’s doing? Don’t just shut the door on her. Give her a chance. Talk it over with her, and she may realize what’s she’s been doing, and stop it. If she keeps on doing it, get the guts to tell her the friendship is over, or “drift away”.
I also need some help of my own. My Big Mouth Bummer Frenemie is really big. And I mean really big. She thinks it’s funny pushing people “on accident”. She throws her weight around dangerously and I have already been hurt by her. I don’t want to take this to the principal, but I also don’t want to get hurt. What should I do?
-Nobodie
P.S. [She’s also really funny, and she’s my friend. I don’t want to talk to her or shut the door on her.]
Answers!!
I suggest you write a note to her. It will let her know that what she’s doing is wrong. And if it continues, every time she tries to trip someone, gently remind her that she could get in trouble, and that she’s not doing the right thing. -Advice Giver to Nobodie
HELP!!!
I have this awesome BFF who shares my interests, hangs out with me on the weekends, and is always my partner for projects. There’s only one problem about her. She is OBSESSED with guys!If we’re talking and a cute boy comes by she always drops me immediately to talk to him! She will flirt with guys all the time no matter if they’re my crush or any other of our friend’s crushes! And as if watching her do all that stuff all the time isn’t disgusting enough guys are all she talks about to me all the time! I have talked to my other friends about this and they agree with me so I know I’m not alone but I still can’t figure out what to do! Does anyone have any advice for what I can do?!?!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply
Wow, is she really that boy crazy??? Try talking with her. [If you can do it, good. ‘Cause I am NOT the “talk it over” kinda person.] Maybe she will stop. If you’re just not into that whole “talking it over” thing, than drop hints. Make a “quiz”. Do regular life questions, than do a question like, “Do you spend more time with boys than with your BFF?” and put “Yes!” “No!” or “Sometimes.” Maybe she will get the hint. If she keeps on doing it, you will have to talk to her. It’s not healthy for her to be obsessed over boys. If she just doesn’t listen, talk to your mom or dad or another person you trust. Maybe they will talk to her parents, and they can work it out. -Nobodie
Big Mouth Bummer Is Getting Worse!
She’s did it again. A classmate and I were joking around in the hallway, and he hit me with a book, and we started laughing. but BMB threatened to tell a teacher, like she always does. Why? Because she liked seeing people cringe under her power. So, she made me give her something from my locker. It wasn’t much, but I feel bad actually giving her something. One time, she made me give her all my pencils, and she lost almost all of them. She had lots left, and I had none, and when I asked her to give me one, she gave me a broken one, and laughed. I felt so bad. Help! -Nobodie The Question Asker
Advice to BMB
Have tried talking to her about what she’s doing? Mabye if ya tried talking to her she might lisen…If she does’nt lisen to you might have to call the friendship off.I know she might might be funny,or pretty,or cool,but if she keeps being mean to you on purpose and does’nt say sorry you’ll prob have to break this friendship off there will be other friendship,better ones. ~Awesome Homeschooler
Re: Big Mouth Bummer Is Getting Worse!
YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!SHE HAS NO RIGHT TO BE THREATENING YOU THIS WAY!!!!! AND DON’T GIVE HER ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!! IF YOU DON”T SUBMIT TO HER “POWER” SHE’LL GO AWAY! Try telling your mom or dad about this crazy girl, They’ll know what to do, or say to the teachers. Even though it might seem like your a snitch, your not. She’s harrassing you, and taking your stuff. Which is illegal. Her parents might be dragged into this, but she needs to be discliplined. Don’t be afraid. School should be a nice, safe, sheltered place to go to. Basically, it’s your second home. But anyway if you already told an adult you can trust, you can always try confronting her yourself. - Elphy
Fighters
Me and my “best friend” fight all the time and sometimes she makes me cry. she is the one who always gets mad and makes me feel like I’m a dork. So usualy I go and cry. But luckaly I have waaaaaay better friends then her.
HELP
my 2 BFFLs hate each other and whenever i have one of them over the other one finds out somehow! so now i cant have either ine of them over. They also talk bad about each other every time i have onr of them over HELP what do i do!! LOST
UGH!!!!!!!!!!
my ex-bff just got mad at me for NO REASON!! i think she thought that i was being mean to her BROTHER!! she is such a stuck-up BRAT! she makes me so mad! she is an idiot, a brat, stuck-up, well, I could keep going on forever but, i don’t want to take up all the room!