Are middle-school girls too young for boyfriends?
Age Matters!
There is a big difference between eight-year-olds and twelve-year-olds. Some twelve-year-olds might be mature enough to have boyfriends, but I don’t think eight-year-olds are. Some girls who have boyfriends hardly even talk to them! They just want to be able to say they have a boyfriend. I would rather hang out with boys as friends and get to know them better before being someone’s girlfriend.
–KATIE, AGE 12, KY.
BFFs…not BFs!
In my opinion, we shouldn’t have boyfriends because we’re just too young, but that doesn’t mean you can’t like someone! Some girls have boyfriends because they think it will make them cool or popular, but when you get older you will realize that there is more to it than that. At young ages we should just enjoy our friends!
–ELISE, AGE 11, KY.
Boyfriend Bill of Rights
Of course they are not too young! Girls should follow their hearts…not rules. If a girl likes a boy and the boy likes her, then she should be with him. They should put it in the Bill of Rights that you have the right to have a boyfriend no matter how old you are! It’s like they are tearing you away from someone you love.
–MEG, AGE 12, MICH.
Seriously Unserious
It really depends on the people. Of course you can’t expect to find the person you want to marry at that age, but if two people really like each other, I don’t think there is anything wrong with having a boyfriend. Just don’t let it get too serious!
–LINDSEY, AGE 12, IND.
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Why Not?
I agree Lindsey, middle school girls CAN have a boyfriend, if it isn’t same fake relationship just for popularity. If two people really truly like each other, then let them date! But just, like she said, don’t let it get too serious. Like calling each other on the phone, holding hands, and stuff like that is acceptable.
-al
Total Agreement
I think Lindsey is right too. No one should tell you what age you have to be to have a boyfriend. Most middle- school girls are mature enough to handle one. If you do have a boyfriend just because you want to be popular, then you might want to rethink the relationship. If you have one you deeply and truley like, then that is fine but don’t let it get too serious.
I totally Agree with ya Lindsey
See i am a middle school girl myself and alot of girls in my grade have boyfriends………….some even have boyfriends even though their parents have told them to stay away from eachother.But i agree with Lindsey because i think that girls and boys should have a chance to think for themselves…it is part of becoming an adult , is making your own decisions…but only if you can handle one . don`t have a boyfriend just to be cool, maybe your other frinds might think its cool, but its not you should be ready and mature.
I agree with u to lindsey
I totally agree with u to lindsey! In my class everyone is dating! Even my bff’s.i think age does matter but if u really like someone it is ok. Just don’t get to serious! only talking on the phone and stuff.I have a bff that is even a boy and i don’t like him. But if i did i think iprobably could go out w/him next year.so lindsey you’re are totaly right!:)
I agree with lindsey
I think that if you really like somebody, and they like you back you should try dating them. You can’t stop yourself from liking someone. Your age shouldn’t interfeer with the way you feel.
I so agree with you Lindsey
I know some girls who are so immamuture and wild they cant handle having a boyfriend.But I think its fine if both the parents are fine with it and the girl is mature.
Lindsey is right
I agree with lindsey in that we are not to young to follow are dreams. if we belive our heart lies with this guy than we than we should not be held back. Although we probaly wont marry him our dreams count
I Don't Agree with Lindsey
I Totally Agree with you Lindsey!!!!
Girls can have boyfriends in middle school, they just have to be extremely careful. Some boys are jerks, so make sure that you check their backgrounds before going out with him, to avoid future heartbreak. You may get lucky and find out that he is a total sweetheart!
middle school girls
i so think middle school girls are old enough to have a boyfriend.i happen 2 be in middle school and the girls who have boy friends take it seriosly (about 50% of the time). i happen 2 have a friend who has had the same boyfriend 4 2 months. @ my school thats really rare. theirs still so many rumors about whos dating who. lots more guys r more mature. middle schoolers r more mature than adults think we r. the gossip about all this never gets boring,thogh.
I Agree with you Meg!!!
yea, girls can have a bf, because they need to follow their hearts and not their brains, unless it gets too serious, then use that noggin of yours girl!!! thanks!!! vanessa
well it’s not about age
well it’s not about age it’s about how mature you are. if you are 11 and younger that way too young. Grade 7 is when you start maturing, so ya.If you are like 16 and have a boyfriend and he has two other girlfriends then theyr’re just immature. But sometimes it is about age and maturity.put it this way if he hasn’ matured tell him to go fly a kite.
age is sooooooo not a factor
if you’re mature then i think it doesn’t matter but if you are not very mature then i feel that you should try to become friends with boys not their g.f.
Recipe for diaster
I think middle school girls are much to young to have a BF.I am 13 and I used to want a BF because alot of my friends had them.But then I realized that you almost 100% of the time breakup in a month or so.I think that you are just setting yourself up for a divorce later on in life!!!! I think 16 is a good age to get a BF because you are mature enough if you breakup you can handle it well,and if you get serious you can decide if you want spend the rest of your life with him or not.
No Way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I say no way !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WAY to young man. wait till your 16 to date. that’s what I’m doing! That’s My Advice
Lindsey is so right
I think we should have a BF but dont get that serious holding hands, calling each other not that far but like in my school there was a girl who had a BF and me and my are friends are his friends well one day it was me and him playing then she shows up and starts screaming stuff like why are u cheating on me and get away from her i am your girl then me and her got in a big fight now that was way over the border.
well, at my school the
well, at my school the grades go up 2 grade 6, and my school is SO small, so none of the girls there have boyfriends. when we meet kids that go 2 the town school, like every girl has a boy friend. my best friend moved here last year, and at her old school, you would get a boyfriend in like grade 4. personally, i think thats wayyy(!) 2 young. and the girls that left for the town school last year are all turning all crazy over guys (well, most of them). i would much rather have a guy for a best friend than a boy friend. sure, u can like someone, but bf wit a guy is wayyy more fun! -Oli
i agree to!!!
can someone try explaining this to my mom! we never have actually talked about me having a boyfriend but im sure the answer would be no!!! why???isnt it our choice? i mean i think my brother had a girlfriend in 8th grade but now he’s saying stuff like”no boyfriends till 10th grade”or “you dont need a boy for prom” or asking questions like”who do you like?” and “do you have a boyfriend” isnt it my business?
Agreed
I totally agree!
al
i agree with al. you go girl. we are definitely not too young to have a boyfriend. to me having a boyfriend or girlfriend is just a friend to friend relationship BUT you learn more about them than you would in a regular boy-girl friendshipish. thats what i think. i know it might not help, but the rough part is ,trying getting through your mom. UGH. middle school girls can have boyfriends just as long as their mature and ready, and its ok to have a best guy-friend, i mean i do.
-em
Yes and No
I think that girls should be alowed to have boyfriends but I have this one friend who already thinks she knows who shes gonna marry!!!! i mean, get real!!! Shes only 11!! I think its fine to have bf but it can be kinda crazy if you go as far as my friend. (when my friend told me this i was like, sure, and they broke up just like i said. ) —Jill
Maybe..
It all depends! I think middle school girls could have a “boyfriend” but let’s remind ourslefs not to let it get too serious we need to think about other important stuff too!
LOVE RULES!
deffinitley
i think its totally fine for middle school girls to date. Just dont get too serious. calling eachother is fine, but holding hands down the hallway and stuff is going a little too far. as long as you dont over do it, i think its reasonable.
hmmmhmmm
There is a big age group in middle school, so i think that girls 12 & up should be able to have bfs. they should get to know the guy first (a mistake i made). but if you meet the right guy and really like him, then you should go for it.
I don’t think people
I don’t think people should tell you how old you are to date. Sixth grade is young and from experience, people at this age really only have boyfriends to say they do. But unless you’ve been in a realtionship you shouldn’t pass judgement. As I said, yeah, sixth grade is young and at that age, we really don’t understang the purpose of a realtionship, but if you know what your doing and why, go for it. In my opionion though, girls really don’t get what a boyfriend means untill eieth grade, but that’s just me. I know from experience.
-Kelly
your right
Your right! Holding hands and talking on the phone is fine just don’t get over your head! your the best !!!!!!!!!!!! -Liv
Boyfriends
i agree with lindsey. u can have a B.F. if it’s not for popularity. u should decide, if u like him and he likes u, yes. but don’t let it get too serious!!
Well, who are you?
Well depending on who you are and how old you are, that will diside if you are ready for a boyfriend. If you are a girl who truely likes a boy and want to know them better, then I say go for it. But if you are a girl who wants a boyfriend for the sake of having a boyfriend, then you need to grow up a little. When you have a boy friend don’t get to serious, ( I mean your not getting married).
Okay
Younger girls may not realize it yet, but it’s perfectly normal to have a boyfriend!! Crushes are obviously going to occur and they DO and people go out with other people and have boyfriends! It doesn’t mean you’re going to marry this person, but it’s puppy love- and nothing’s wrong with a middle school boyfriend/crush. In middle school.. people don’t get boyfriends to be popular, they do it because they like someone. Some girls do it just to SAY that they have a bf but most don’t!
—Hayley <3
Hayley I agree
I agree Hayley no one has a boyfriend because they wanna be popular they have boyfriend cause they like that person.
Maybe Not!
I don’t really think it’s a good idea, we girls are too young to have one, I still ask the question as in “Why not?” even if i don’t have an answer i think it’ll be much better to have crushes, and maybe have a boy as a BEST FRIEND but no boyfriends! PLEASE
yeah
Yeah I agree that we should what tile we are older because I think that middle school girls are still to young to have boy friends so I think we should what tile we are older.
It Depends on the person
Well i think it depends on how mature you are. My mom wont even let me have any guys on my msn. I dont think it is that fair because she says boys are wierd at my age and not all boys are. But you should tell your mom if you are dating because if she didnt know and then found out she may have let you date but then decided that you shouldnt cause you are to ireasponsible to because you lied to her.
Me too
I agree GIrls should decide what to do ! Whats so bad ? If people really like each other they should go for it ! But , if people brag it’s not right to do that , at all !!!!!!!
-kb
Boyfriends- why not??
My mom and dad are not to big on boyfriends but as long as they are not to serious my mom at least is ok wit it… so I think young girls need to have a shoulder and ahand to hold every once in awhile. I really dont think it is a big problem because we girls need to know what it feels like to know what it is like to have a boyfried and if we cant express our feelings to our parents…why not boyfriends
NO!
I way don’t agree!!!!!! It’s not good to have a boy friend in middle school! You soooooooo need to wait till your totally serious with a boy. You don’t need a boy to cry on his shoulder or to be all cute. Lot’s of girl’s have boy friends becouse there friends do or they think it so cool… but it’s not! if you do want to have a boy friend in middle school then push that thought away. But, it is totally fine to have a friend who is a boy. Please, we’re just kids! You really do not need a bf!!!!!
TOO YOUNG!!!!
Yes, I think girls need to beable to concentrate on their school work and getting a job before they start looking into a boy relationship. If a girl wants a boy to be her friend to hang out with and go to the movies sure go ahead as long as your parents know and trust that boy and his family!!
Signed, No Boyfriend
Distraction
I do not and do aggree with “no boyfriend’. You are not to young if you’re in middle school! Just date the right guy for you, don’t get serious and keep up your grades! If this guy is a distraction or bothers you or gets you in trouble, totally break up with him just remember to say it wasn’t him you just can’t afford to have bad grades, he was sort of a distraction to your school work, and maybe if he WASN’T such a distraction, in the future you and him could be together.
Well..........
I think that if you really like this guy and he likes you, then it’s ok. But if you like him, and he just doesn’t seem to feel the same about you, then be friends. Being friends will help him realize what a terrific girl you are, and then he might want to be your boyfriend. If he does become your boyfriend, then don’t let it get too serious, it could lead to heartbreak and a ton of trouble! Thanks!!!! Vanessa K. <3 <3 <3
My point
EXACTLY!!!! Al, that is totally true. I see girls and boys at my school and they do that thing. Me and my friends just think that it’s their loss that they are waisting their precious childhood. There’s PLENTY of time for that when you’re older. I mean, my parents say I can’t date until I’m fifteen!!! And at ages 9, 10, and 11? That’s just WAY too inappropriate!!
-Tori
Agreed!
I agree with you as well, Tori! I think that ages 8-14 should NOT have boyfriends. Puppy love is understandable, a lot of kids do that, but actually dating, no way! Even if you claim that you’ll stop if it gets too serious, it might already be that way, and you can get into a lot of trouble, heartache, and jealousy because you’re too young to understand a real relationship. But , you’re lucky, my parents say I can’t date till I’m 18!!!
i agree with lindsey
I agree LIndsey because some people might not want a bf and some might! Some people may thinkof couse every body should but some people think no way! I think maby like lindsey! thanks 4 listing!
dena
i agree with Lindsey
i think that you can absolutley have a boyfriend in middle school if you don’t show off. I think if a guy likes a girl and vice versa, the can be boyfriend and girlfriend. i just have one condition- don’t have one if your 10 or under!!!
-Brianna
Mixed Feelings
I agree with all of them. I mean, in my grade, we have those couple of girls that “Go Out” with someone, but don’t even talk.In my school [which i do NOT agree with], if you “go out” with someone, you Like them but don’t love them and don’t even talk. Thats why i think you should wait a few days just to be like, 1”Do I REALLy love this guy? 2 Do I like him enough to say i was his girlfriend?” You have to ask yourself those questions. I f answered YES to Them, great. Confirm it. If you answered NO to EITHER of these questions, well…. wait a little longer or start as friends. Oh, and remember, ALWAYS ask yourself if your just saying yes to say you have a boyfriend or to be popular, or if your saying YES because you love him. THATS the most important. hope you found this helpful!! -Becca
lindsey is soooooo right!
ok so lindsey thinks that if we are mature enough then it should be okay.and i totally agree! my friend has a boyfriend and their a really cute couple. they should think…do i really like him or not really? if you really like him then go for it ^.^ but eitherwise it should be okay… the only thing you have to worry about is telling your parents! good luck! -Sierra<33
yea, totaly
I completely agree with Lindsey. Some girls can have boy friends, and then some cant. In my school, all the ’ popular’ girls have boy friends.
Friend? Sure. Boy friend? Maybey
i think anyone can be friends with a boy, but be careful when you think about boyfriends. my sis liked this boy in 6th grade and he liked her too, but after they went to seperate middle schools they just became good friends. i’ve heard of girls who date boys to make friends jealous. thats just stupid. dont date unless u like them for who they are and dont change eveything about you to make them date you. boyfriends are people you will consider marrying in 12 years, so dont go thinking that you can date every boy in your school.
boyfriend
yeah totally you should beable to have a boyfriend!!! I mean why not????? Just as long as you don’t think you have to spend the rest of your life with this one boy. I have one friend who thinks she already found “the one” i find it a little creepy. But I think it’s harmless as long as it’s not to freaky.
I toally agree
Its fine as long as you dont get to serious because if one of you breaks up with the other one of you can get your feelings hurt. ts fine to have a boyfriend but you have to remember this is middleschool not High School!!!
Thanks yall,
Liv
I totally agree with Lindsey!!!!!
Here is my point of veiw on so called BOYFRIENDS!!!!! I think that it is ok to have a boy friend in middle school!!! I also think that your family and friends should be first on your list, not BOYS!!! I myself know they are cute, but we should’t sit around and think about boys all the time!! Your thoughts lead to your destiny is what I am told!!!! SO it is fine to have a boyfriend if you don’t make him your #1 priority!!! Family 1rst!!!!!!
I agree with Elise
Dear Elise, i totally agree with you. At this age we should enjoy just having guys as friends. Spending time with one another will prepare us for the future when we DO have bf’s. Now we should enjoy just having guys as friends. Also, i know that some girls in my grade….actually a ton of girls in my grade have Bf’s and they dont tell there parents, keeping secrets from our parents only adds stress to ourselves, at this age we dont need MORE stress, we need less. Friends, make you feel less-stressed, bf’s make you feel like you have to be someone your not at times.
-Em<3333
i dont know. a middle school
i dont know. a middle school girl shoud be exepted to to be able to love,BUT what happens if grades start dropping?
-marisol
Right On Lindsey!
I TOTALLY agree with Lindsey! There is nothing wrong with having a boyfriend in 7th or 8th grade!!! But some people do it just for popularity and that is so not cool.
LINDSEY YOU ARE SO RIGHT!
LINDSEY I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU. OTHER THAN THAT I THINK THAT ONLY 10 AND UP SHOULD HAVE A BF!
CHEERLEADER 15
Pressured to Date!!!
Waz Up? I’m considered “popular” and all of the other popular girls at my school have tried to pressure me into getting a boyfriend, but I don’t want one. The girls said “I wouldn’t be popular anymore” if I don’t get one. I think thats dumb that just because I am a 12yr old girl who isn’t interested in boys, that I wouldn’t be popular just because of that reason. So my advice to young girls like me is to do what you belive in. No matter what anyone else says!!!
YES........AND NO.
if u like someone at that age, why not ask them out? i don’t see any harm. i mean, you may not be old enough to go on dates, or kiss, or anything like that, but if you feel confident and less insecure about yourself because you know that he likes you, then go right ahead. but in some ways. it can be better for yourself not to get into a relationship at that age too. sometimes it can ruin your friendship with a boy or it can get really aquard (i’m not sure how to spell that, but in other words: weird.) sometimes i get really jelous and desperate when i don’t have a boyfriend and my friends do, but then when i start going out with someone, i regret it. it’s ok to like someone and and have them like you back, and flirt with them and everything. it would be like you’re going out, but you’re not so it’s not as wierd. really; just think about it: “going out”- middle school girls are too young to really go on dates anywhere. and “boyfriend”- just think of iy as boy friend. you know, a FRIEND that’s a boy. i guess if you really wanna ask someone out, then go ahead, but you might regret it. i hope you listen to my advice.
~Chrissy~
DEPENDS
it depends on the girl most likekly i think its fine to have a boy friend in middle school i think 5 or 6 grade is fine but then again it depends if the boy and girl are ready<3
Hmmm...I dunno...
I don’t know…I think they are probably a little young for boyfriends! It could get kinda serious and in the way of schoolwork. I’m not saying I don’t want a boyfriend (I have a huge crush on a boy at school), I’m just saying they’re a bit too young. -Obama fan!
agree
yeah i think mid school is a good time to be BF and GF but not really dating, maybe hang out at the pizza place but other then that HS is a good start b/c that’s when u should be super mature enough
heck yes
i think middle school girls are not to young to have boyfriends if you like them why not. just dont let it get serious and dont do anything you know youre to yuong for.
NO
I don’t think middle school girls should have boyfriends because whats the point of dating if your not going to get married??? From, Shelby
Why Not?
I do not agree. dating isnt necessarily about finding a husband or wife. its about spending time with somone you have special feelings for. nobody is to young for that. :),
Blanca
I agree
You should be allowed to “go out” with someone if you both like each other. But, like people said, it CAN get too serious! If you just call each other and stuff that is fine but don’t go too far. love leah
NO!!!!
Middle School girls should be aloud to date as long as it is not to serious. I have a boyfriend because we both really like each other and its not to serious. Girls should be aloud to have boyfriends, it’s not against the law!
__Maddy
I AGREE WITH MADDY
I think Middle School Girls should be able to have boyfriend just as long as you don’t take it too serious. I don’t have a boyfriend but I hang out with two ALL the time. If they have a boyfriend just to be cool then they should really consider looking at the relationship. But overall yeah I agree with Maddy girls should be able to have boyfriends.
I AGREE WITH MADDY
yeahh.. you can have a boyfriend in middle school… my bff have a boyfriend. so, my bff said that her mom told her that she can have a boyfriend BUT she still needs to focus her studies.. =] iit’s up to you to decide! ;)
-imjustme!
SHELBY WHAT!?!?
Shelby u said that whats the point of dating if u r not gonna get married-well the point is live alittle everything doesnt have to be so serious like u can only have a boyfriend if you r gonna get married well how do u expect to meet the guy you are going to marry if you dont date I think the sooner you start dating the better. Well not too young but if you are mature go for it!!!!!
Re: Shelby what!?!?!?
Oh my gosh! I don’t know who “Shelby” is but she is so wrong! Like, the point of dating if ur not gonna get married…. well, okay… say u meet this awesome guy. And he’s super cute. and he asks u out. And u say, “I can’t date anyone that I’m not gonna marry.” And then he gets super mad and storms off. And then this totally mean guy who, like, you totally hate but ur parents think hes perfect… well, say ur friends say u can’t come with them and there BFs unless u have a BF urself. So, u ask that super-cute guy and say, “We can go out 2gether but we’re gonna have 2 get married” but he’s not ready to make that decision Bcause ur BOTH 2 young and/or he’s made about B4. So then that mean boy comes up and he says to u “I am free on saturday.” and ur really frustrated with the cute boy, so u say, “fine whatever but unless u wanna get married it cant be a date.” and he says “well i want it to be a date i will pick u up at seven” and then he does and then twenty some odd years into the future u have to marry the first guy u went out with! I mean that is so wrong! I mean, my mom didn’t meet my dad until she was out of college and teaching and had a job and everything. And plus, u marry someone u love, right? and u don’t love someone the second u meet them! (well i’ve heard of love at first sight but I don’t think it’s that common) So, you have to FALL in love with them. And how do u do that? U DATE!!!!!!!!!!!! And u will probably say, “yeah but if I date and fall in love with him I will marry him and thats my point.” But what if u like him at first but them u get 2 know him and he’s a total dork? Like i used to like this boy but now I think he is a total dork! I would HATE to have to marry him! Ugh! So that’s my point. If you have to marry whoever u date first… well u could do it but u would mean u would have to get an awful lot of divorces. So I don’t think thats a good ,theory at all! and please post a comment on DG website on the newest ebarressing moment when u finally go one ur first date and tell me if u would marry the guy Bcause i think u will find out ur theory isn’t really a good thoery.
RE:RE: SHELBY what?!?!?!?
I’m not trying to fight w/ you here but I think what Shelby’s trying to say is you are NOT going to marry the first person you date necessarily, but that dating is for looking for the right guy for you to marry and getting to know that guy. And ur not looking for a husband at 12!!!!! Do you understand wut I’m trying to say? And just so you know I do think it’s alright to hang out w/ guys… just so ur not dating at that age. Carissa
agree
I totally agree! you shouldn’t have a boy friend till your older! And having a boyfriend in middle school is so too young. you can NOT be playing around with a boy.You’ve gotta wait till your older,and more series about dating! —lexie—