Friendship Tip: Friendship Advice…From DG Readers

Our readers know a lot about what makes a great friendship! See what they have to say!

“My BFFs are the people that I can share my secrets with and tell all my crazy ideas to. They may laugh at my ideas, but they’re always there for me and they never talk bad about me.”

–Kennedy, age 12, Tenn.

“To have a strong friendship, follow these three simple rules! 1) Work it out: If you and your BFF have a fight, tell each other what's bugging you. You'll both feel a lot better! 2) Be all ears: If your BFF has a problem, really listen to her! Try to understand how she feels—she’ll love you for it! 3)  Keep Secrets: The next time your bud tells you a secret, keep it a secret! If you tell everyone what she said, she'll feel upset and lose trust in you. And if you can't trust your BFF, what's the point of being friends?”

–Anonymous, age 11, Fla.

“A best friend always come straight out with what they have to say. When they’re angry with you, they tell you why instead of spreading rumors and telling another friend. They’re trustworthy, fun to be around, and they make you feel comfortable. That’s what I think makes a best friend and it’s also how you should treat yours—with respect, honesty, loyalty and trust.”

–Courtney, age 12, Mont.

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What makes a friend a good friend is someone who makes you feel good about yourself, and loves to see you succeed instead of fail. I admit I'm not that kind of friend all the time, but I want to try to work on it. My best friend fits those descriptions pretty much perfectly, and I'm very, very, grateful she's my friend.
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Ya same here. I'm so lucky for my BFF and I'm trying to become as great of a friend as she is with support, loyalty, and sisterly luv
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yay! 1rst 2 comment! and i agree completly! like or reply if u agree
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When you and your friend are stuck in a fight, it is best to try and work it out and make up. When a friend has something to say, you should listen. There are lots of ways to fix up friendships!

I just wanted to say that I dont think good friendships have to be just girls. I think that boys can make good friendships too. Sure they are different but they are a like too. It is good to have a mix of boys and girls friends.
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I dont have any friends i dont know why im really shy can u help me???
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Break out of your comfort zone! Find a girl who like the same stuf as u, and go 4 it!
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I used to be so shy I couldn't even look anyone in the eye! Then I met this really nice girl and all I said was a simple 'hi'. We started chattting and now we're BFF's!!!!! If going up and talking to a new girl makes your stomach a bit squeemish, then a simple smile in her direction should do the trick. :) Hope I helped!!! ~Love2LaughGirl

It's ok I was really shy to :-) ! Just be yourself! You'll make lots of friends and you already have a lot of friends, right here on discovery girls!!
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Yea!you can also try and go talk to people!Like ask a group if you can sit with them at lunch.
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well i think you should give gifts to your friends tell them how much fun it is to be there friend and treat them with respect try not to lie because when you do it becomes a big mess and have fun and if you have problems TRY TO FIX THEM! :)
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A best friend is your lifeline.You have to be able to trust her,and have fun with her.If you can't smile or laugh when you're with her,she's not the one.
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good advice(:
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Me and my BFFs always share with each other. If someone talks about me behind my back, they tell me, vise versa. we always share secrets, and we even made a pact!
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I think that a true friend will never tell you a lie. No matter what. And if a friend is mean to you don't fight them. Just remember a good friend will never turn their back on you.
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I think that a true friend will never tell you a lie. they should be trustworthy and always there for u when u r down. all true friends will never turn their backs on u or try to hurt u on purpose by anyway. And this article has good advice.

I have a lot of bffs i have a bff over right now shes so nice and she makes me lol a lot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Bye!

your BFF is someone who cares about you in good times and in bad times and cheers you up ,thats what my BFF does.
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My friend a year ago met somebody else, and now she never wants to hang out with me anymore, and it's frustrating! Any advice?
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You could try to talk to her about it and tell you how you feel. If she doesn't get it, you could take her off your friends list. And maybe it's not ALL her fault, you could make a harder effort to hang out with her. Also, try to make new friends, it always makes life better to have lots of friends, and maybe you just have to move on. Good Luck:)!!!!!!!!!!!
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I know u "I think "!!!! Bffs should b rreeeaaallyyy gggooddd friends!!!!!!

I had a friend like that when I was in 4th grade. She started hanging out with the rich girls. I ignored her because if she was really my friend she would have never have hung out with that group. Anyway I just went back to my friend Nathan. As long as you have other friends you'll survive. :)
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You are like a life saver! Thanks so much for the advice! P.S. I really admire you for just saying "get over it"!!! Honestly, sometimes people need to hear things that are tough, but the right thing to do! :)
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I think you should always be able to tell your best friends everything and you should always keep each other's secrets. No matter how badly you want to tell someone. And finally, be there for each other!
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Truthfully my friends are just that friends. I do not believe in telling my friends everything. If I did they'd always be talking about stupid stuff that I had told them. You need to keep your secrets to yourself and not tell friends! It is your business not theirs.
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My friends are like tha best friends ever ..until one day they hurt me badly.Sometimes friends are mean...but you need to go on with life.. and find friends you can trust.
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thats very true. if you and your friend grow apart you can try to forgive her. if not, you have to move on.

hey gals! I just want to tell you all that bullying is like never ok.If you are the bully you need to stop [right now!!!] If you are being bullied don't worry,tell an adult you trust and make sure you have friends and family to be there for you and help you. who says your not perfect!!!! [don't forget it] xoxo p.s. spread the word for me!
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I totally agree with you! Bullying is sooooo wrong and can ruin a girl's confidence. Also- Make sure if you know someone who is being bullied stand up for them! Bullying seriously stinks!!!
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Bullying is so wrong. People can get really hurt and it can stick with them their whole life.
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"My best friends are people who would do anything to keep our friendship on going forever as i would do for them"
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Yah i love Justin Bieber

My best friend has the same things in common as me, always supports me, and completely trusts me. I can trust her too and know she's always there for me. My idea of a best friend is someone who understands you and will never turn her/his back on you; you can talk to them whenever about anything.-luv2dance12:)
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a shoulder to cry on, a listener, a trust-worthy person, your own personal cheerleader, the peanut to your butter, the hot to your sauce, the chicken to your legs, the meat to your loaf (hmm, I'm getting hungry)
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i have all kinds of friends: the loyal bff's, the kind supportive friends, the goofballs, the guy friends, and the furry friends. no matter what they are all there for me
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i had a fight with my friend she and me are inseperable.But now we are friends again and we r happy.
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when i get in fights with my bffs but we all ways get back together :)

Here's a recipe for a awsome friendship: Add a pint of kindness, A table spoon of creativity, A cup of loyalty, A teaspoon of fairness, A tablespoon of support & encouragment, And a gallon of Smiles! Mix togther throughly, and then bake at 350 Please note: This friendship should taste smooth creamy and delightful!
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wow you're creative w/ ur words! peace out girl! 2012! Happy New Year everyone and mcm!

thanks for the advice

thanks for the advice people!mcm i liked yours but i actully love it!

Someone who will listen to you, doesn't talk behind your back, can tell them anything and won't repeat it, is their for you when life is rough, and loves you for who you are.

find friends who you can tell any kind of secret or come to during boy or bully problems. Friends who give you advice about puberty, and sibling drama. Find friends who make you feel good, not bad and you'll feel amazing!
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