Friendship Tip: Old BFF vs. New Friend…
Over the years, we’ve doled out lots of advice on how to have the kind of friendships every girl wants—supportive, fun, and drama-free!
Over the years, we’ve doled out lots of advice on how to have the kind of friendships every girl wants—supportive, fun, and drama-free! We’ll be sharing some of our favorite tips here, as well as quotes from our amazing readers—because you’ve come up with some pretty great tips, too!
Old BFF vs. New Friend…
With school starting soon (or already in session!), you’re bound to have the opportunity to make new friends. And when you meet someone new and interesting, it’s only natural to want to spend a lot of time with them. But be careful not to get so excited about your new friend that you forget about your old BFF!
Remember how the two of you used to stay up till 2 A.M., laughing till you cried? And how she was totally there for you that time you really need to talk? How would you feel if she was suddenly busy with a new friend every time you wanted to get together? If you still value her friendship, let her know! Invite her over and devote 100 percent of your attention to her. You’ll not only keep your friendship with her going strong, you’ll also decrease the chance that she’ll be jealous of your new friend, since she’ll know you’re just making a new friend, not looking for a BFF to replace her.
How do you keep your old friendships strong when you make a new friend?
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I learned this in Girl Scouts...
Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold!Girl Scouts
If you’re in Girl Scouts, you’ll know this: A circle’s round, it has no end, that’s how long I want to be your friend!Hang Out Together
You can all still have mani-pedis and gossip. Just do it TOGETHER! You can have just as much fun as you did before. This time, with even more people which will be even more fun!Easy! it’s a question of how
Easy! it’s a question of how you divide up your time. i spend more time with my closer friends, of course, but that doesn’t mean anyone should feel left out or jealous. sense I know my older bffs better, i hang out with them more outside of school. it is important to only make friends with people who will accept your other friends and respect you relationships with them. because i can trust all my friends, theyre all my bffs!make new friends but keep the old
its ok to have new friends but you have to remember to have and spend time with your old best friends.old bff vs. new bff
you should just do what i did stay with a friend that does good to younew girls
Last year i hade the same frinds. I plan to meat new people, becues all my old firends are drama queans.old/new
I am in Grade 2 and have had the same friends since JK, there has been new ones old or new everyone is the same and not treated differently.Last year I went to a new
Last year I went to a new school and made friends with this girl called Terry and Terrys other best friend Kyra was really mean to me! I tried being nice to Kyra and finally she became my friend now Kyra’s one of my BFFsleft out
My BFF moved in 1st grade we were really good friends now she has a new BFF and its makin me jelous! HELPre: left out
It’s normal to feel left out. Call your friend and chit-chat! Or if she’s still close-by, go over! Meetre: left out
hmm… well, you should get together with her and tell her that you feel like she likes her other BFF more then she likes you, and that you feel like she replaced you. it works! trust me!i had this bff we are like
i had this bff we are like such good friends but then i moved and met new friends and i got a new bff and she found out and know shes sad i need help what should i doTo: am a funperson
Maybe, all of you could get together and watch a movie or something. Maybe, you won’t see her as much, but you can still hang during the weekends. Hope this helps!bff troubles
my best friend is acting like she is trying to replace me with another best friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!happened to me
that’s happened to me before…it’s hard to deal with, even more if she’s your Bffl.ech
that happened 2 me 1 timeI Would
I would spend time with both of them and include them in all of my activities so no one feels left out and If I was going to give them a gift I would give them both one so no one feels jealous or left out I would be close to both of them.The more the merrier
I got lots of new friends this year and my friends like them 2being on the old bff side
My best friend is always looking for new best friends. Not so she can get rid of me, but so that we can have more of a group instead of just the two of us. I’m always open to meeting new people but every time we start hanging out with someone new, I become the third wheel. If you have an old bff and a new bff, make sure that you include you old friend. That way everyone can make friends easier instead of immediately excluding someone.Friend
Invite both of them over and chat…;)!!The More, the better!
If you just want one friend, thats fine! But if you are scared to make any new ones, dont be! You had to have made friends with your BFF someway! Just walk up and say Hi, and introduce yourself. Play together a little bit, then say seeya tomorow1 Then It will become a daily routine! But remember, always include all the BFFsWell
Have both 4 new bff keep on trying 2 learn more about each other and old well its hard 2 say but still keep ur old unless if the old bff is mean or bossy!!!!!!!FRIENDS!
alright, i just moved and was really sad i wouldn’t be seeing my old friends that much, but i made some AWESOME friends at my new school, and still talk with my old friends every day online. so my advice is to be open and friendly to all the people in the beginning, even if you don’t end up being you know, bffs!How i keep my friendship strong
When i make a new friend I say hey can I have this person come over to be withus and go get them.Make new friends, and keep the old!
New friends are awesome, and your old friends are too. As long as your old friends are good friends that don’t care if you have other friends, then hang out everybody together! But if your old BFFs don’t get along with the new BFFs, then hang out separately.BFF Troubles
My one BFF is home schooled so i spend a lot of time with her. but my other not-as-close friend is now SUPER jealous. all 3 of us try to get a long but my friend is just to jealous! what should i do?!How to Make The First Move to Make A Friend
Just act natural! Be yourself! You’ve probably heard that advicce a million times and thought, “That’s easy for you to say!” You’re right. The truth is, it’s hard to feel totally relaxed and comfortable with someone you hardly know. But you can become confident enough to make the first move.don't forget
Don’t forget that its always ok to have more than one friend. You know what they say “The more the merrier.” :) ;)BFF
My BFF’s are nice but when it gets to four of us they start to get really mad at each other!!!! its so annoying. One of my bff lives right across the street from me and when i have my other bff over she wants to come and ruin it its soo mean!!!!! So the other day we all got together and we had a sleepover but it went ok just at the end it fell apart.I KNOW RIGHT?
I have 2 bffs. one lives a few streets away. one is my neighbor. we’re all in the same class at school. my other friend’s super jealous because my other friend from my street comes over everyday! help!!both
Keep in touch with your old friends, but hang out with your new friends too. That way nobody feels left out. If your old and new friends don’t get along and you’re having a birthday party, or something, make sure they are both OK with hanging out with eachother.BFF!
me and my best friend are the best of friends! we had another friend but she moved. so me and my bff became bff”s with another girl who was friends with my bff! we are all great friends now!same
i move away for my friend a few years ago, and now her new friends,her,and i love to chill!Need advice? Come Ask! <3
My friends already know that I’m a very open person, so they’re usually ok with me making new friends. But I’m always careful to make a it very clear that I love ALL of my friends. I have a balance of hanging out with everybody and devoting my time with each of them. <3 Need any advice on friendship? Come ask me! :)my best friend of 6 years
my best friend of 6 years moved 4 hours away and i miss her like crazy any ideas how to make new friendsTHAT SUCKS!
My 3 best friends moved across the COUNTRY!!!!!!!!Just be Strong and youll get through it!help!
Well i have a friend that gets mad at me if i even talk to one of my new friends. i still include her, and try to talk to her, but she just walks away and says things like “have fun with your new best friends!” what should i do? i dont want to end the friendship, so are there any other options? its also hard to have a heart to heart with her, so i dont know if talking to her will help either.don't fight
never forget about ur bff but if ur bff is holding u back from making new friends or if she never leaves u alone time explain to her calmy that ur not dumping her but u think u should spend a little alone time with different friends if she gets all mad and says that if u won’t spend all ur time with her then ur not a true friend then SHE is not a good friend its great to have a bff but it doesn’t mean u have to spend ALL ur time with her have a couple good friends so u all can get together for a sleepover or to go swimmingI dont know
i dont know what to say just be yourself and even though i dont know you, every DG girls can trust in them self and talk to a grown up about it or just relaze for awhile and just think about it!*SIGH*
Life is hard…So much to deal with. Reply to this comment if you agree. *Sigh*tell me about it
it is okayi feel you
i feel ur pain girlygirl1196yes
agreed! but its worth it because of also the best parts of life! LIKE ICE CREAM! kidding there is way better things in life. :)Lol
If life was easy they wouldnt have sites like this!!agreed
i agree can u go on the blog page don’t look back and answer my comment i need suggestiionsI really need help...i think i'm going to cry....
Please help me! Please! Someone! I….my best friend I’ve known since preschool died! Then my other one just said, ‘that is too bad.’ She has been acting mean and saying my other BFF was lame! Then she said I was a loser and went to sit with the Clique! I don’t have any frinds! What do I do?It's going to be ok
I’m terribly sry ur BFF was probably totally amazing. It’s more than okay to be sad. Feel free to talk with someone. Y dont u strike up a conversation with someone nice!! Or sit with a friendly group at lunch. Try to join some clubs or teams. No one can replace your bestie but in time u will make friends. (-;Don't worry...
Aw! Don’t be upset! I’m so sorry that your friend died. 1st, I would just ignore your other friend that is being mean to you, and if it gets to out of hand, I would tell some body, like an adult, a parent, or a teacher, or any adult that you feel comfortable with. And don’t worry, you will find friends. Just be nice to other people and they will know that you are a good friend!omg
im soo sorry! if u want friends just simply smile at some one sit by them at lunch chat and just BE YOUR SELF!